Hey wonderful people, I just wanted to share my thoughts as a wannabe flr sub. I’ve read lots of your posts and been active in the kink side of the community for a few years, though passively. Recently I’ve begun to feel more serious about the lifestyle, and here’s what I’ve learned:

• Remember the Domme’s needs first. And I mean absolutely first - before anything sexual, there needs to be a real anchor in your head that says, what does she need? Dishes? Laundry? Mental load relief? Find the important things and do your best to relieve her stress of them - that’s your role!

• Do what you can for the women in your life. Does a female friend have chores piling up? Offer to help, if you think she would be comfortable with that. (Some people may find that rude!) Do NOT do this as a way to sexualize her, or expecting in return, just do it because you can, and it would make her life better.

• Be mature, patient, thoughtful, and most importantly RESPECTFUL. This is not just a kink, and any Domme in your life is a real human being who is nuanced and layered. Most people wont want to be dominant all of the time - thats exhausting. Most people definitely don’t want a manchild to play mommy for 24/7.

Am I missing anything, or naive about anything? I’m genuinely trying to learn, so please, let me know! If anyone has any good literature or posts to read on this please do let me know those as well!