Hi guys!

I am back out there dating. I am currently using Hinge and Bumble (also Chyrpe, the FLR app, even though it's pointless because it has no people). So my strategy is to use mainstream apps to try to find FLR.

The issue I am running into is that even though I think a lot of "normal" women have the potential to thrive and enjoy a FLR, I think they are often turned off by the idea on the surface. The knee-jerk reaction is usually negative.

It's clear to me that most women value certain qualities in a man that are just inconsistent (at least on the surface) with a FLR. The vast majority of women like things like male assertiveness and leadership, and the idea of a submissive male or of they themselves "leading" makes them balk.

The two most important aspects of FLR for me are a service-oriented relationship as well as male chastity. I'm into a million other things, but for me, these are the big two.

My current thinking is to avoid the term FLR, avoid talking about who leads and who doesn't, and definitely don't refer to myself as submissive. The things I think I might be able to talk about include: enjoying performing acts of service and treating my partner like a queen, putting her first, and liking strong, confident women.

It just seems like such a delicate balance trying not to elicit that reflexive negative reaction in women.

I would love to hear any thoughts or advice! Thanks