A little background

My wife is very dominate in life in general, when I told her I find her dominate personality sexy, she took offence that she’s dominate, and insisted she is submissive. I do like her dominate FLR lifestyle, telling me what too do, bossing me around, teaching me new things around the house, I love it and learnt a whole ton from her.

I fantasise on the fact that she takes it a step further and dominates me sexually, like focusing on her pleasure, etc, but she’s too afraid to hurt me. I tried to talk her through it via feedback and that sort of stuff. She always reverts back to saying she’s submissive and doesn’t think herself a dominate.

I’m thinking to be up front with her and tel her what I’m thinking off. To incorporate sexual bdsm activities into that FLR that we already have.

Like if I didn’t bring her a drink while we are out with friends she would punish me somehow so she gets a kick out of it, to teach me a lesson.

She gives various hints that she’s dominate, she walks up to me while we are both I a good mood, walks up to me from behind while I’m naked, grabs both my ass cheeks, pulls them apart and reaches for my hole and says gosh I wish I can fuck you. I joking say you know you can, we will get a strap on, and she immediately changes the subject…

We both come from very conservative backgrounds. Between attempts or conversations there is usually months as life gets in the way most times.