Hey y'all!

So a bit of context: I'm an MtF trans woman in the early stages of transition (social transition only so far). I've dated women at various points in my life but the relationships never lasted longer than a couple of months, and frankly, calling them "relationships" is generous. We just went on a few dates.

I think I didn't like trying to date much because cis-het-normative dating conventions and expectations never appealed to me, and I also didn't like having to try to be the "man" in the relationship. (Romance seems SO much more appealing now I've realized I'm trans.)

Fastforward to the present moment and I've been reading about FLR's and they seem so absolutely perfect for me. I want to focus on my partner's needs above my own and for some reason that feels like possibly the most fulfilling thing in the world.

My biggest concern is that I have basically no "relationship experience". I'm 26 so I still feel pretty young, but I don't have a lot of practice taking people on dates, "hanging out" in a romantic context, feeling out the intentions/emotions of the other person, etc.

What advice would you give to someone like me? Would you recommend I try to get more relationship experience, even if it's not in an FLR context, or would it make more sense to seek out an FLR directly? I understand most FLR's blossom for "normal" relationships, but is there a way to feel out whether someone would be open to that after meeting them a few times?

Also, for those of you already in FLR's, what kind of character traits are most important at a first glance for the person in the following/submissive role? I have been thinking about what I can be doing on my own time to be a better fit.

Thank you in advance! 😊