For a lot of people, my husband included, the idea of a full on FLR was super hot. Until that post nut clarity kicks in. We had to really navigate reality from fantasy. While he fantasized about his cruel, mean, bitchy wife that poured super glue into the lock of his cage and destroyed the keys, that wasn’t a practical thing to do. While I love pushing it past where we have gone and upping the excitement and his nervousness, it all has to be safe and practical.

When we started exploring with femdom outside the bedroom, like him being locked up or wearing panties in our everyday vanilla life, we had to find what worked for us. And that included a lot of mistakes and trial and error. Over time with trust and communication, we found what not only worked, but a semi-FLR that we both really enjoy.

The two biggest things we decided on was using a “pause” and that our children and professional lives are not part of this. When it comes to children, we tailor things that they won’t obviously see. (I get more into that) We also approach parenting on a neutral level and if we disagree about something, we don’t bring it to the game. Also, one thing I really found out I enjoy and gets me really turned on is pushing his limits further than he thought he would go. What I mean is, we both know how far is too far and areas we have no desire to go. Like inviting other people into our bedroom; I don’t want to have sex with other men but I was intrigued by cuckolding so that evolved into him cucking himself with strapons. For me, it fits our lifestyle because now he still has to do the physical activity of having sex but he gets none of the rewards. This led me to getting bigger toys because he is terrified his penis is shrinking but also he is terrified that the bigger the toys get, the more I become a size queen. So everytime I got a slightly bigger toy, I’d measure him and compare him to the new toy. Eventually, I started acting unimpressed and like I couldn’t feel him inside me. I made sure to move in ways that would cause him to fall out. This opened the door for me mention that he is shrinking and that I thought the toys were also stretching me out. The last time I got a bigger toy and measured him, he was just under 3” fully erect (2.75” to be exact) When I showed him, his eyes looked like he was going to tear up so I my new “dick” next to him for comparison. After a few verbal exchanges, he came without warning from my wet underwear. Since I didn’t permit him to orgasm then, he had to eat his mess. I scooped it up glob by glob and put it in his mouth and made him hold it there until he was locked up. After he swallowed, I enjoyed my new, real man sized dick.

I also like the subtle ways to push him. At first, he had a few obviously feminine panties and some that could be considered unisex underwear. But when I realized how much I loved the humiliation aspect and how much more submissive he became when humiliated, I started getting him slightly more obvious pairs of panties. It started with colors and progressed to the no doubt those are feminine girly panties. He used to wear the unisex looking ones when he was at work but I started making him wear ones were a little more feminine. He had a pair on that the fabric had a feminine design and they had a very soft, girly blue waistband on them. While at a house he was called to, he heard one of the women say “I think that guy is wearing panties!” And her friend said “oh my god!!!! He is. I have those same ones from Walmart!” (He was wearing a pair that I got from Walmart so I believed him this happened because I didn’t tell him where I got them) He texted me and his humiliation was sky high but I was so turned on. Now almost all of his panties are very obviously women’s panties and I like to remind him to keep his shirt tucked in so no one else will see them. But just the other day, his partner at work asked him if he accidentally put my underwear on that morning because she saw them above his pants.😂😂😂😂

As for at home, I have gotten creative. We have 4 children at home ranging in age from 14-3. Other than what appears to be playful banter between us, we don’t really verbally indulge in front of them. I may playfully call him a good boy or something like that but nothing really obvious. We will however exchange texts. I might send him a task to do or tease him with my text. I might text him and tell him to go send me a picture of his panties or if he goes to take a nap, tell him to sleep like me. (That means a T-shirt and panties only) The boldest I have gotten is on a few punishments. One time I text him and told him that since I couldn’t make him wear a bra at the moment, I wanted him to put one of my huge pads in his panties so he would not forget he’s my bitch. He protested but did it. Since he protested though, I put almost an entire tube of icyhot on the pad about an hour later. And he had wear it until it was time to shower. When the kids are in bed I will have him do chores in a T-shirt and panties or just lounge around with me but a pair of shorts are always close by. I do like to have him wear a bra but I don’t when the kids can find out easily.

At first, we kept this to ourselves and liked the rush of the possibility of people finding out. But it quickly became apparent that the real humiliation he felt from public humiliation was different and more intense than my humiliation. Now I will not deliberately involve unconsenting adults, but truly accidental exposure is something he has accepted as something I like. Now I will humiliate him in certain circumstances after getting consent. Like at adult stores or certain places he buys panties, like I’ve mentioned at adult stores about him being small and locked up. Usually, the employees are curious so I ask if they want to see. If they say yes, he shows them and usually they see his panties too. Or I will tell the salesperson at the store we are shopping for him. I will only tell older women that I know fit what he is attracted to (Bbw or chubby milf type) Most just giggle and assist us like normal, aiming there questions to him about what he likes. One time though, she asked why he prefers panties and he looked at me and I said to tell her. Nervously, he told her because he is locked in a cage and they provide the best support. Curious about that, she had a ton of questions and it ended up with him telling her that he was really small down there and that’s why he is caged sometimes but that uncaged the panties fit better too and that it reminded him of our dynamic. She was surprisingly supportive and said that she was happy that we enjoyed our sex life despite his shortcomings. When we got home, he put on the real man sized dick and fucked me crazy. He even gave himself an orgasm, something that had never happened that way before.