There is a situation developing within the flr dating that I am going through. We are still just dating, but it's been a few weeks so it's getting into habit bit by bit.

She has told me that I am so well behaved and pleasing to her that she doesn't want to go more intense and severe. So I ask her how she feels about the level of our FLR dynamic and whether she likes more or less severity, and she says I am being so good that it makes her not want to be mean to me. I guess this might just be a case where she is not comfortable going deeper into FLR dynamic, but at the same time she says she wants to go deeper. It's the classic incentivized misbehavior-punishment situation.

So I am thinking about how to misbehave, but I know that's the wrong idea. How do you think this situation should be handled?