I have come to realize more and more why an FLR is the most suitable form of marriage.

If I have conflict with someone else it not a huge problem as that person will not be able to have a huge influence over my personal life but in a marriage it is different as at the end of the day I am still sleeping with that person and and will have to face that person every morning. Additionally, that person is apart of my life and whatever she or I do impacts both of us.

Also, with other people I am naturally dominant often given the lead role in things and feel comfortable being in control, if someone is not performing it is easy to issue to a warning or even take drastic action. Handling people diplomatically is also easy as how I truly feel towards that person does not matter. I could dislike someone yet, smile and be kind and polite.

In a relationship, it feels like being in control is a burden as I truly love and care about that person and feel uncomfortable being diplomatic and dominant. I just want to let go of diplomacy and everything I carry and just be this person that is the opposite, a submissive loving individual is more than happy to love and serve.

People who know me in person say I have a strong character, smart, confident and the girls who approach me and fall for me end up disappointed later on when we are in a relationship and the dominant side fades they lose interest and feel that I am weak and vulnerable inside as I am submissive.

It all makes sense why some girls ask me how someone like me is still single. The answer is that I am not who I appear to be to everyone else. Love and submission are deeply embedded in me.

Goes to show that you really cannot judge a book by it's cover. Maybe the opposite is also true, a dominant women may want to be submissive in a marriage and a submissive women the opposite in a relationship or marriage.

What does everyone think? Your thoughts on this personal discovery.