I’ve been completely unable to find an available, eligible woman who is already interested in some sort FLR dynamic. I’ve been looking in places you’d reasonably expect them to be or places people say to look, like fetlife, munches, and feeld. I’m going to refocus my efforts on just traditional dating. But if I find a woman who I think may be open minded about something like this, I’d want to bring it up and gauge her interest.

But like, how do you do that delicately and tactfully and without having her think you’re a weirdo? Bringing it up in the somewhat early stages of dating feels like a huge risk. You could lose the girl and, worse, she may tell people about it and now mutual connections know.

Is it even worth trying this with someone who doesn’t know they want it? I try to think about the vanilla women I’ve been with and, tbh, I really can only think of one who I think would show any willingness to try some sort of FLR or femdom.