I got a message on fet from a sub who was looking for a domme and wanted to send me money. We hadn’t messaged before, and I have never been a findomme (is that even the name for it?). So we chatted a bit and he sent me a small amount (€20) but I just didn’t feel comfortable with taking his money. So I told him I wouldn’t accept any other payment from him. But it seemed to really bum him out. He seemed disappointed.

I have been enjoying chatting with him and getting to know him, but I still don’t think I will ever want to be paid. We’ve had a few video sessions and he always wants to send money afterwards but I don’t want him to. Is there an alternative way for him to be satisfied but also not force me into the findomme role? I was thinking he could just make a separate account that he controls and can send money there so it feels like he’s actively sending something but I don’t have to be involved. I have absolutely no experience with this and appreciate any advice.