Folllow up to a previous post. I’ve had more time to think on it though and I’m seeing a repeated issue.

I’ve had my sub since November and I genuinely like him a lot. He sends nicely and reliably, he has a wallet with my name and he’s so cute.

We have a hypnotic relationship as well. He begs me to brainwash him and manipulate him. You’re going to maybe not believe what’s next, I guess it depends on if you believe in hypnosis. Maybe he’s not role playing, Maybe he is. But he acts like it’s true.

He told me he’s so in love with me and gave blanket consent and I can do so much please do so much to him anything and everything. I’m really hesitant. But eventually he convinced me. I used hypnosis to give a false memory of signing a 5k debt contract. I was not going to let him go through with it and I planned to tell him after a few payments. (I realize this sounds like a stretch to people not doing hypnosis). He got mad at me for a few hours but then came back saying you’re right I’m so horny for what you did and I love your control over me. And I can do it again if I ever decide to. I can do anything to him.

Last night he said please take 1k from me. Force it with hypnosis. Give me urges to send. I obviously want the money. But it’s the end of the month and I know he won’t meet the bills. He said he doesn’t care he wants me to do this. It wasn’t his first big send. But I just drained him and I knew he didn’t have it.

I told him I don’t want you to do this I need to be ethical.

He said I want you to do this I don’t care. Please I need to do this and don’t let me back out.

I told him I can’t ruin his credit.

He said it’s okay. He wants me to try.

So I used the hypnosis trigger. He claimed he had a very powerful urge but didn’t have the money and he never sent it and went awol and he got a bit scared at how strong the urge was.

Hypnosis aside (it’s just context, whether it’s role play or real to him doesn’t matter), I guess I’m bothered because consent is important to me but he keeps asking me to do things that’s unethical in my eyes then i eventually do it (I got consent) or try to, and he gets upset at me for it.

Do I need to tell him stop asking me to do stuff I’m uncomfortable with, or do I need to be more firm on my answers? I don’t want to push him away because he really does send a lot. It’s becoming a pattern though.