The amount of subs that find you matter less when you’re focused on the quality of the sub. Have they approached appropriately? Meaning, have they tribute in order to request your attention? Have they used the correct terminology based on your own taste: Mistress, Goddess, Madam... First impressions are so important. Approaching correctly is mandatory! Have discernment and follow your intuition when you receive your first message from a sub. “Sent, Goddess” or “How can I best serve you, Goddess?” AFTER they’ve sent, always peek my attention. Immediately asking, “Do you do xyz?” “Can we talk before I tribute?” or “How do I tribute?” result in immediately being blocked and forbidden from ever trying to speak to me again because I can clearly see that lack of comprehension is apparent. I’m so busy irl, I don’t spend time weeding through messages. I only respond to tributes. Your sub should have done their research about you before approaching to serve. Taking just 60 seconds of their time to review your page should provide them with enough information to know if they are interested in serving you or not. Which brings me to another point in quality over quantity.

Ensure your page is authentic and a space where everyone knows immediately their place and how they can interact with you! Stop copy and pasting or posting these generic posts that you see other Domme’s posting. Be authentic. Get creative. Show some personality, damnit! I understand you may not want to merge your offline life with your online life, but please, for the love of all is holy, be yourself. This is your space to be served on your terms. Make it beautiful and have fun. I’ve even seen a handful of Domme’s who close their DMs and make it mandatory to put your @ in the notes so that you can speak to them. And it works wonders.

Stop focusing on how many subs may or may not DM you and focus more on the quality of the subs that truly understand how to approach you correctly.