hi, im a dom, not new to bdsm, but new and always interested in findom, but not in the typical, i do more into controlling the sub finical, like control how he spend, and also play it as a game or punishment, such as i do have ideal to use him money to buy sex toy to play on him. i didn't really want to get him money for free as i always feel a bit like im a scammer, and i also not like giving out pics for the money as i view it as a trade or onlyfans not a real findom (also because i dont have a fit body XD), is that a kind of findom too? also beside reddit how to find male paypig as a male dom?

also i do want to have a deep connation with the sub, not just findom and own like a whole too.