I see a lot Domme's posting their gifts from subs. It's very inspiring; however, I feel like no one has really talking about the journey. I would love to hear from both Findom and subs on how they started. I'm not sure where to post, what to say, etc. I've been doing a lot of research on it from Youtube and seeing the posts here. I've come to the conclusion that the draining/degrading style of Findom doesn't resonate with me personally. I'm looking for something more passive than domineering, yet still maintain that level of assertiveness. A more gentle approach. (If that makes any sense)

Any help from both subs and dommes would be gladly appreciated! Also, if there are any Findom discord servers that I could join, please let me know! I'd love to connect with more findoms!