So, before I (male) start this post, I am just going to say I am fairly new to the Non-CIS, Non-Het world. Outside of my one lesbian cousin, I literally never met/talked to a Non-CIS Het person until I started trying to date men at the start of 2020, (which was not a good year to try and "discover myself") so if I say anything that is offensive or incorrect terminology, it is not out of malice, it's out of ignorance and lack of experience.

As a part of my fairly recent acceptence that I am not the straight male I thought I was, I started to question everything about my sexuality and gender, and I have been looking into Trans influencers, femboy influencers, and every other label/group you could think of, but it's not like there is really a consensus on what any one thing is, so I thought I'd ask you all about it to see what you think.

So, I have genital preference, but I have body type preferences. I am not attracted to traditional masculine traits, but on a CIS women they can be good (look up Lean Beef Patty for reference as to what I mean) but for men I prefer, essentially, femboys. Based on this, I consider myself Bi, as I am not attracted to all body types, so to me that excludes me from being Pan.

As far as gender, I like certain aspects of being a Bio. Male, as I do find parts of me attractive from time to time, and in a way I don't find attractive on other men, like a defined jaw and curly hair with a thick beard if I don't shave (I look somewhere between a young Bob Dylan and Marcus Aurelius) but I don't want to have muscles or body hair, and I love women's fashion and I like looking feminine and cute , so femboy is close, but it's not all the time, and I do a lot of things that trans women do, like hate my body hair and I want to have a rounder figure with a more androgynous look, but at the same time I don't want to be a woman and I actually like my genitals (I know it's weird to say, but it seems like an important detail in this discussion) and I have zero pronoun preference, so as far as gender goes I have no idea.

Any information, advice, suggestions, or support is welcome, but let's keep it civil and constructive and non-targetted. Thanks cuties!