I've noticed that a vocal minority of online trans women have a real problem with femboys, and act like our existence is an attack on their ability to be respected by others. However, even the ones who aren't full mask-off femboy-haters tend to call popular femboys like F1nn5ter "problematic" for various offenses...but it feels like they're just masking their jealousy over female-passing femboys with woke moralizing.

Like recently, because Finn made a post about being a puppy boy, a bunch of trans women got upset and said that he ruined it by "appropriating" something that was theirs (even though pet play is something that plenty of cis people enjoy as well...trans people didn't invent kink.) Just because a lot of trans girls enjoy something, does that mean that femboys can't also enjoy it? Like, are we not allowed to like Blahaj anymore or something?

The more common criticism of femboys is that we enable chasers to disrespect and misgender them... because we label ourselves as boys. I'm sorry but femboys are not responsible for other people's bad behavior. It's ok to be a boy who looks like a girl, actually. It's frankly a bit wild for a group of people who should be the most progressive and knowledgeable on sex and gender issues to attack gender nonconformity as "trap aesthetics." Like, I'm sorry sis but if you're upset that a femboy passes better than you, don't take it out on him. Plenty of us don't pass either, but you don't see us trying to weaponize leftist language to argue that "well akshuallyyy youre a fascist if you try to adhere to patriarchal eurocentric colonialist beauty standards." No, we recognize that the world is unfair, and we choose to express ourselves through whichever fashion choices make us happiest, regardless of whether other people think we're attractive for it.

While I'm obviously opinionated on this subject, I don't think responding aggressively how I've just done is particularly productive, and I don't want to hurt anyone from the majority of trans people who are supportive and affirming towards femboys. Has anyone else run into these sorts of arguments or criticisms, and has anyone successfully defended femboys from these attacks?