Ive wanted to talk about this for a very long time. Being in the bdsm community online comes with LOTS of trial and tribulation. Especially with men who clearly aren’t trying to be subs and enjoy the pleasures that comes with kink by being dominanted. They are a plague, an incurable virus that seems to adapt every time with new tactics to literally harass you. They not only disrespectfully call you by a title but will tell you what youre gonna do or demand you convince them why you should dominate them or why they should send you money when thats not how it works at all. And youll want to respond or if you lack self confidence in your own dominance youll fall victim quickly to these men who want to use you as a kink dispenser. They will drain you emotionally and mentally very quickly because you respond to one demand then suddenly youre stuck with a bunch. Its better to always block and lets not forget report them especially when they send unsolicited nudes. They forget the number one rule to bdsm and that is CONSENT!!! Which brings me to why I say this is just about trying to control. They could literally find ANY ONE! To already consent and be down to do exactly what they want without having to dm you nonsense or when you get to talking they demand you deny them. They want the opportunity to break you down because they never had intentions of submitting at all but as soon as they don’t get what they want here goes the “ i cant ever find a domme” “good dommes are hard to find.” Real subs don’t dm you disrespectfully, they don’t immediately tell you what you’re going to do to then and to bring it a but further. They won’t insult you if you decide to respond sticking up for yourself. Weird men get off on trying to make you something youre not especially when you don’t fall into what they think a woman should be or when you don’t fall into the categories of how women are supposed to be (not saying that won’t that are submissive are. Because thats an entirely different can of worms that has its own set of issues to discuss) I hope you guys are able to understand what im saying im not good at articulating myself clearly always but overall it was on my mind because I recently stopped talking to someone who finally revealed their true colors because they told me “you really think a man is going to want a woman manlier than them” in many words or less and it clicked for me he never wanted a real dom/sub relationship with me. He just wanted sex period which is fine but he wasn’t honest from the start he thought his little comments here and there was enough to break what I stated from the start. Two different scenarios but like similar issues you know