I’m not sure if this is a vent or if I’m just looking for validation about my dreams. I have probably always been polyamorous and have been open about it for last 12 years or so. I had a monogamous partner but it always got really uncomfortable because people- including my other partners assumed that I was being unfair to him even though it was always his choice to stay monogamous. And, since I was the submissive in these situations, I always found that I wasn’t really welcome to pursue the dynamic that I have probably always wanted which is to have multiple male partners who are both submissive.

I prefer to be the only woman/ fem in the relationships but I’m not opposed to a closed triad or sharing in ways that I am empowered to make the final decision. And, I am really lucky to have a submissive partner who is onboard with all of this. We started as a “vanilla” couple but quickly escalated when we realized how much our kinks line up…

But, I kinda feel like we might be unicorn hunting for a male third. Is that a thing? I would like to meet a submissive bi top -do those exist? And to pursue something long term as a triad or vee dynamic…

I know leather families exist and it might be something similar to what I’m describing but I feel really naive. I don’t really know how to describe this or how to go about pursuing it. And a big part of me thinks that it’s better thought of as fiction than a real possibility.

Does anyone have experience with a dynamic like this? Advice? Words of encouragement?

Editing to add that I am on this subreddit because it only allows for comments from other dommes and not male subs…