Yesterday I saw a post from a person near NYC asking about meeting people, going to munches, etc. I must’ve been bored, or feeling extra nice, or forgot the perils of reddit, and I offered to give them some guidance over DM. (I did and they were super nice and appreciative)

Today I have received three DMs from so-called submissive men asking me to help them in some way. None of these messages included the words please or thank you. They didn’t say anything interesting about themselves, nor did they say anything about me as a person (except that I’m dominant, of course). They each just expected me to help them with something.

The entitlement is astounding. Some men really believe that they can expect something from us, whether it’s time, knowledge, attention, guidance, or entertainment.

I know that not all submissive men are like this. I know that there are men in the subreddits who give good advice and call out bad behavior. I wish there were more, especially to correct their fellow men.

(fwiw - two of the people who DMd me today commented that I was “angry” when I declined to help them. Men don’t see each other as angry when they’re told no, and we could spend at least a decade breaking down the problems with this)

Each time I post advice, I know to expect a new influx of thirsty messages. This behavior discourages me from posting sometimes.

I’m curious if you experience the same?

Then I got to thinking, what if we just went silent for a week or so? What would they do? How would they know if it’s a scam, or how to get the girlfriend to peg him, or what to put in their dating apps?

What if they didn’t have access to our time and attention?

[I’m not really suggesting that we go silent, but it’s an interesting thought exercise, and I just needed a good rant 😁]