If a prospective submissive has said that they actively enjoy denying themself sexually, yet seem to constantly pour over sexual content online, does this seem to line up? Now that I may establish a dom dynamic with them, they claim to deny themself and that they only wish to release with me/for me to control this, but they are always commenting on sexual content on social media. They claim they don’t watch porn, especially since having experiences with me. It’s difficult for me to believe they are truly denying themself, it’s hard for me to understand. Admittedly, I don’t really they think they have earned the trust yet and I dont really know what that would look like. I don’t want to be too black and white because human nature is complicated, I just know it isn’t sitting right with me so far and I don’t know what I need to ask for yet. Perspectives welcome, thanks.

One standard I really try to focus on for myself, is paying attention to behavior over words.