Edit: I should have been more clear. We’re almost two years into our relationship. His issues are things that I am well aware of and femdom/ flr was actually working well for us and helping us navigate some of these issues. It’s just that we’ve hit a roadblock with his poor communication and other issues again. Yes, I am bitter but there is a lot of love and mutual support in this relationship.

So, we’re a few months into our FLR lifestyle journey. We started out romantic and switchy but have landed in this dynamic because it seems to work best for us. However, he has lots of bad habits. Being inconsiderate, bad with his time, poor communication. Stupid stuff that he somehow turns into bigger things just because that’s his stuff that he needs to be working on. The closer we get, the dumber his behavior gets when we’re apart. We don’t live together so he has enough days apart to just get careless and dumb. So, our plans get ruined and I have to keep addressing his bullshit and I feel like a lot of the fun reasons for doing this and spending time with him keep disappearing and I am losing out on things because of his poor behavior. I’m tired and questioning whether I should push through. I want to enjoy this dynamic and our relationship and that seems to keep getting harder. Is it going to get better? Is there a point where his submission will just be boring old obedience and not a place for his personal struggles to keep playing out? Should I push through one more round of missing out on our plans tonight to discipline him and keep our relationship on track? Any advice or anecdotes would be appreciated.