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The biggest place on Reddit to help you find a femdom dynamic!

It's hard to find a partner for a femdom relationship.

Here, we try to foster a safe environment for people to find partners.

Moderators

Updated Dec 4, 2024
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Subreddit Rules

Updated Aug 20, 2024
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This is an 18+ subreddit

Any and all content must relate to users over the age of 18 years old. Users can express their interest in dd/lg kinks however must not sexualise minors in the process.

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This is an 18+ subreddit

Any and all content must relate to users over the age of 18 years old. Users can express their interest in dd/lg/little kinks however must not sexualise minors in the process.

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All content must be Safe, Sane and Consensual

SSN or Safe, Sane and Consensual is the most important part of kink and BDSM. All posts and comments must display these qualities. We cannot endorse dangerous or unhealthy BDSM.

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This is a femdom based subreddit

We have tried our best to make this an inclusive space for those who identity as trans, non-binary and other genders in our rules, flairs, titles, and guidance - however this is femdom, a place for dominant gynephilia (attraction to femininity). Posts must be relate to female domination, and only primarily presenting femme dominants (and femme switches) are allowed. For the avoidance of doubt, dominant "femboys" are not allowed to post as dominants or femme.

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High Quality Personal Adverts Only

This subreddit is to help people who have an interest in dominant women (inc. trans women, but not "femboys") meet each other for kinky encounters, connections, and relationships.

Anything that is not a personal post, e.g., discord servers, telegram groups, etc. will be removed.

Mods have discretion over what constitutes “high quality”, and will remove posts asking for upvotes.

Posts under 500 characters in length will be automatically removed - put some effort in.

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All content must be Safe, Sane and Consensual

Being Safe, Sane, and Consensual is the most important part of kink and BDSM. All posts, comments, and user accounts must display S/S/C attitudes. We do not endorse dangerous or unhealthy BDSM, such as cheating on partners (without their consent), physical harm, etc. Users who take part in subreddit communities that are not S/S/N may be banned (e.g., incels, non-consenting porn, etc).

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Minimum Account + Karma Requirements

We only allow posts and comments from users with accounts over the age of 14 days with positive karma.

Posting on freekarma will no longer work, and you may be banned for using them.

We do not share what specific limits are required - instead, spend a few days posting and commenting to become an active member of the kink community.

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High Quality Personal Adverts Only

This subreddit is here to bring people looking for kinky lifestyle-only connections together. Anything that is not a direct personal advert looking to connect with dominant women, or submissive people, will be removed.

Posts must be over 1,000 characters in length, and must not ask for upvotes. Mods have discretion over what constitutes “high quality”, so users are expected to put effort into their personal adverts. Read our guides if you need more help.

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No Financial Domination, or Exchange of Goods

This is not the subreddit for findoms, or a way to find new clients or subscribers, or any other financial or material gains. This subreddit is for kinky humans to find other kinky humans.

The concept of "findom" online has been abused by bad people looking to exploit the vulnerable and lonely, and we do not allow it here.

Those who advertise or expect tribute or other financial/material gain will be banned. This includes any users who have sex work anywhere in their post history.

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Title Formatting Rules

Your post title MUST follow this format -

25 [M4F] Looking for a domme in #London, #ClosestMajorCity or #Online

This format has three main components -

  1. Your age is the first thing in the title, followed by a space
  2. Using a [x4x] gender tag, followed by a space
  3. Somewhere in your title must include a # followed by a location, e.g., #Online #Paris

    Read more guidance here
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If you ask for pictures, you must be willing to share pictures.

We understand that physical attraction is important, and we trust the community to negotiate terms of sharing pictures between themselves.

Due to the asynchronous nature of Reddit messages, there will be inevitable situations where pictures are not returned which we cannot control or enforce.

However, we do not allow posts where the terms of a d/s arrangement say only one party receives pictures/images of the other. If you ask for pictures, you must be willing to share pictures.

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User Account Requirements

User accounts must be older than 14 days and must have positive karma. We do not share what specific limits are required so do not ask; we encourage new users spend a few days posting and commenting elsewhere on Reddit to become an active member before posting a personal. Users may be banned for posting on freekarma subreddits to try and get around this limitation.

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Only post for adverts for your (true) self

Do not post on the behalf of others, for their privacy and security.

Your advert must just be for you to find a new or additional dynamic.

If you are looking to roleplay as somebody else, you must transparently disclose this in your personal. Any suggestion that you are not who you say you are will result in a ban on your current and future accounts.

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No Financial Gain, or Exchange of Goods

This is a lifestyle-only subreddit. We do not allow users to post here with the intention of making financial or material gain from the connections they make.

Those who try to use this subreddit for commercial enterprise purposes (e.g., OnlyFans), or expect "tribute", or other financial/material gain from our userbase, to either begin or maintain a connection will be banned.

Evidence of rule breaking must be posted to /r/fakedominantreporting.

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Only post once every 7 days

Users are only allowed to post once every 7 days. You may be temporarily banned to give you a break from posting if you post more than once per week. Trying to evade this rule will result in a full-time ban.

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No fetishising protected characteristics

We will not allow posts that contain slurs or target other human beings in a derogatory or overtly-sexualised manner based on characteristics such as disability, gender reassignment, sexual orientation, race, religion, etc.

For example, you can include in your post if you are into race play, however racial slurs or racial superiority statements will not be allowed. LGBTQ Slurs such as "tranny" will also be removed. These can be expressed privately between consenting adults, not in public view.

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Only Respond to Appropriate Personals

Users who consistently or intentionally message others in clear and direct breach of their requirements - e.g., out of age range, different genders, etc - in search of a dynamic may be banned. This includes begging with "I wish I was young enough", etc in the comments section.

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If you ask for pictures, you must be willing to share pictures.

We understand that physical attraction is important, and we trust the community to negotiate terms of sharing pictures between themselves.

Due to the asynchronous nature of Reddit messages, there will be inevitable situations where pictures are not returned which we cannot control or enforce.

However, we do not allow posts where the terms of a d/s arrangement say only one party receives pictures/images of the other. If you ask for pictures, you must be willing to share pictures.

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Display Good Reddiquette at all times

Reddiquette is an informal expression of the values of many redditors, as written by redditors themselves.

  • Remember the human
  • Adhere to the same standards of behavior online that you follow in real life
  • Upvote users who post good content
  • Do not be (intentionally) rude at all
  • Do not conduct personal attacks on other commenters
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Only post for adverts for your (true) self

Your advert must just be for you to find a new or additional lifestyle connections. We do not allow you to post on behalf of somebody else, and if you are looking to roleplay as somebody else, you must transparently disclose this in your personal.

At the discretion of the mods, if we suspect that you are not who you say you are, you may be banned until you are able to verify your identity with the mods.

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Enforcement and Penalties

Users who break any of the rules here may be permanently banned in the first instance. Users may appeal a ban by writing a coherent, polite and clear modmail stating their reasons and a request to be unbanned. Mods have discretion as to how rules are interpreted or enforced.

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Do not share your off-platform usernames

For the safety and protection of other users, and to prevent spamming-and-running, we do not allow users to share their off-Reddit usernames in posts or comments.

This means posts that say "add me on my snapchat, my username is...." (or similar) will be removed. These details must be exchanged privately in DMs. Trying to get around this rule (e.g., information on your profile instead) may result in a ban.

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Only post once every 7 days

Users are only allowed to post once every 7 days. You may be temporarily banned to give you a break from posting if you post more than once per week. Trying to evade this rule will result in a full-time ban.

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Only Respond to Appropriate Personals

Users who consistently or intentionally message others in clear and direct breach of their requirements - e.g., out of age range, different genders, etc - in search of a dynamic may be banned.

This includes begging with "I wish I was young enough", etc in the comments section. Human beings that you do not know are not kink-dispensers or objects. Respect their boundaries and expectations.

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Display Good Reddiquette at all times

Reddiquette is an informal expression of the values of many redditors, as written by redditors themselves.

  • Remember the human
  • Adhere to the same standards of behavior online that you follow in real life
  • Upvote users who post good content
  • Do not be (intentionally) rude at all
  • Do not conduct personal attacks on other commenters
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Rule Enforcement and Penalties

Users who break any of the rules here may be permanently banned in the first instance. Users may appeal a ban by writing a coherent, polite and clear modmail stating their reasons and a request to be unbanned. Mods have discretion as to how rules are interpreted or enforced.

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