About Me

I'm a lifestyle domme with quite a few years' experience. I currently have a 24/7 TPE dynamic with my primary sub. Dominance is a natural part of who and how I am. That said, that said, I am human, I have hobbies, and I'm very happy to have a chat about most topics.

I have enough crafty hobbies that I avoid Hobbycraft like the plague for fear of bankruptcy. I'll read pretty much anything, but particularly I love history - nothing winds me up like costuming inaccuracies in period dramas. In general, I am a terminally curious sort of person - I am yet to be bored by someone talking about something they're really passionate about. I have a dog, so anyone who has dogs / loves them is very welcome.

When I can find the time, I write assorted things, including a D/s themed blog. If you're curious, feel free to take a look at my Reddit profile, which includes bits and pieces of my writing.

Friends

I am first and foremost looking for friends, particularly if meeting for coffee / dog walk / some board games, but online is okay too. I've met a few people through here, but I'd like to meet more!

Anyone who can hold a conversation is welcome. Please do skip small talk - tell me about about your expertise, pet peeves, controversial opinion or your latest internet rabbit hole in your opening message!

Kink Things

I'm also looking for a sub or switch, male or female, who would be interested in a variety of double scenarios with my sub. I am looking to get to know someone to this end, to build a dynamic and friendship with - I am not looking to slot someone into a pre-existing fantasy.

What I'm looking for:

• I am looking for someone who can interest me. Include a topic of conversation in the opening message - as above, tell me about your expertise, pet peeve or controversial opinion. Tell me something I don't know, start a debate, share a fun fact. Messages which don't meet this requirement will mostly likely be ignored.
  
• Experience is preferred, sense of humour is required.
• Correct spelling and grammar is appreciated.
• Please be aged 22-35ish.
• Scope for irl meeting - I am not looking for online play.

I am after power exchange and control, so my exact preferences vary depending on an individual's 'buttons'. Dominance and submission are mental far more than they are physical.

My limits: anything illegal, scat, age play, any actively animal-like pet play, sissification.

My Kinks:

D/s is reactionary, so I don't have a favourite kink / fetish. It depends on the person, the context, my mood and so on. Here's a non-exhaustive list:

• Any form of power exchange, including tasks, restrictions, rules, protocol etc
• Bondage, (especially shibari) particularly creative applications, like predicaments; gags, restraint in general
• Sensory deprivation and prolonged bondage
• Humiliation and degradation (specific to the person)
• CNC (given the appropriate degree of trust)
• Service submission

Masochism is appreciated. For those so inclined, I also enjoy:

• All forms of impact play (caning, flogging, paddling, etc)
• All manner of clamps, pegs, ziplines etc.
• Emotional sadism in all its diverse forms

Voyeurs

I'd love to find a friend to discuss what I do to my sub and encourage me in writing up my exploits.

Any voyeurs with suggestions, particularly female ones, or who might be interested in some sort of live stream set are also very welcome.

(This would require getting to know you a bit, so really not for someone looking for quick porn).

Questions

If anyone has any specific kink-related questions, whether you're a newbie or a veteran with a rant to share - feel free to message me. I'm always up for an interesting conversation.

If you have a general 'how do I kink question' please refer to the wikis on r/femdomcommunity or r/BDSMAdvice for some resource recommendations.

Just to pre-empt the most commonly asked question, being dominant is a part of who and how I am, it's not something I 'got into'.

Also, I don't have a favourite kink, food, board game, book... favourite anything, really. It depends on my mood, the context, and so on. I don't get how I people can pick just one!

How to write an introductory message - a helpful guide

DO:

• read this post;
• introduce yourself and tell me your name and age;
  
• include a conversation topic;
• ask specific questions you would genuinely like answers to;
• give your message (at least a quick) spell check and proof read;
• organise any longer messages into paragraphs;
• send me a message using Reddit chat - I usually don't reply to comments or DMs.

DO NOT:

• address me as 'Mistress' or by any other honorific;
• just write 'hey' or variants thereof;
• ask if you can be my sub (spoiler: if you're asking, the answer is a resounding 'no');
• say you'd 'love to get to know me' and include no conversation starter or questions or information about yourself (this happens surprisingly often);
• copy / paste your generic 'send to all dommes' message (I can tell);
• list all of kinks;
• list all your physical characteristics in excruciating detail (I really don't care about the size of any part of your anatomy);
• list explicit fantasies; or
• include dick pics.

If you've messaged me before and didn't get a reply, you are by all means welcome to give it another go. My inbox is can get chaotic and I don't always get through the chat invites I get.