I've heard it said that if you try hard enough, the universe will help you find what you're after. So that's what this is about.

I'm looking for someone either in my geographic vicinity (Seattle/PNW) for a D/s relationship ideally with friendship and lots of chemistry. I have no expectations going in for anything long term/serious but if it develops, that's amazing! I haven't had any serious FLR (or TPE) experiences yet but I do have some experience playing like minded folks :)

Vanilla: Single, well educated, monogamous, loves to write, reads lots, travel and stay active (hiking, surfing). If you are interested in history, philosophy, psychology or sexuality, we'll get along swimmingly. Overall, I'm resourceful, social, ambitious, constantly pushing myself and vulnerable with the right person.

Kinky: I like to be teased and have my buttons pushed, face sitting/riding, bondage (all kinds), some masochism, sex based games (let's get imaginative), spanking, LOVE nipple play (mine are extra sensitive), curious about CNC. I'm really open minded y'all. I am also super open to switch with the right people.

Physical description: I'm \~5' 6" and 145 lbs. Athletic, dark tan skin, black hair and brown eyes

Kink experience (1-10): Solid Five. I know who I am and what I prefer. Not looking for that quickie and instantly regretting/feeling shame later, a common phenomenon among sub men. Kinky *mostly* in the bedroom but like I said, those boundaries are porous :)

Who I'm looking for: Single, 22-40, likes to read, intellectually curious, Imaginative, loves experimentation, dominant, switch or wanting to be, open minded. Oh also, in a time zone that works ( /- 3 hours max).

I'm attracted to the type of Domme who

* Doesn't mind pushing boundaries to experiment (CNC)

* Is mildly sadistic (sexually and otherwise) and loves to tease

* Is curious/interested in exploring the psychological aspects of D/s rather than just sexual acts

I'm not into: financial manipulation, blackmail, demanding 'gifts.' Then there's this demeaning degradation I cannot stand and it's just not for me ("You're a worthless pig, you're a piece of shit slave.")- mostly associated with findom.

Soft limits: Longer term chastity, heavy cbt or pain

Hard limits: Blood, anything illegal, vore, scat, age or race play, incest, forced-bi, permanent bodily harm, findom, weird occult rituals.

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