I’m neither a “slave” nor a “sissy”. I’ve never been a “sub”. But sometimes I find it thrilling to be submissive, to give up control, to be told what to do, to serve, to worship, to please someone else. I’m looking for a woman — inexperienced and curious or experienced and knowledgeable — who finds it thrilling (or at least a turn on, pleasurable) to be on the other side.
If you do, here some of the things I’d enjoy engaging in with you:
- Voice/video chat: instructions, guidance, commands. You find it hot to listen to me follow your lead, to hear me gasp in pleasure and pain, as I challenge myself. You must be willing to verify.
- Pegging training: you training me to bend over for you, to spread myself, to take a finger, two fingers, a plug, a dildo — how much will you make me beg you for it? (I’m a newbie!)
- Invention, creativity: I want someone who can surprise me, help me push myself, get me to do things that please her, things I didn’t know I might enjoy — or that I’ll enjoy because she is pleased and possibly pleasured by my obedience
- Some things I’m into: pussy and ass worship, facesitting; massage and oral service, pillow princesses, praise and body worship; pegging and ass play, duh; light spanking and impact play; some bondage, ropes, blindfolds, restraints; CFNM; edging, teasing, denial; maybe cum and piss play; definitely more gentle than extreme
- Some things I’m not into: extreme degradation and humiliation (only light); extreme pain (again, only light); incest, underage or race play; scat, blood, the usual; sorry no cock cages, extended orgasm denial, or heavy CBT
I don’t want to pay you. That’s fine if you’re someone who likes to be paid for such engagement — but that’s not for me. After we’ve been involved for a while and trust each other, I’d of course be happy to buy you gifts. But I won’t offer a “one time tribute” or “submission fee” to get started.
I’d like for this to start online. It might stay there, that’s fine. If things were to go well and it was convenient, I’m of course open to scenarios for meeting. But theoretically this can happen with someone from anywhere.

About me: I’m 43, 6’/185, athletic and fit. I do not have a “muscle bod” and I’m not “ripped” … but I am fit, fitter than your average “dad bod”. I am of Italian heritage, with dark features smooth olive skin. I will share pictures and assume, that at some point, you will too. If you don’t want to early on, I only ask for some sort of verification.
Other than that, I’m pretty open to suggestions. Come on, make me moan for you…
(I will cross-post in a few related subs)