Hello,

I'm a youngish man interested in a long-term, healthy relationship with a strong kinky and femdom component. I have a lot of traditional expectations when it comes to relationships: monogamy, mutual trust and support, healthy careers and aspirations, and an equal partnership for facing life's many challenges. By no means am I a doormat, nor do I aspire to be a slave or a member of a 24/7 D/s dynamic; on the contrary, I have a myriad of interests and personal goals that I never intend to surrender to even the most gratifying kinky dynamic.

However! I cannot deny that my sexuality is highly influenced by kink, and that I get immense satisfaction from taking on a submissive role from time to time, especially in the bedroom. I am interested in women who have a genuinely dominant bent, and who get satisfaction from taking full control of their partner at times, especially if it can be done in a way that's healthy and mutually fulfilling. For me, bdsm is a highly imaginative and creative experience, and one of my life goals is to find someone who I can trust to join me in imaginative play that allows us to fulfill one another's fantasies (insofar as we can do so safely!).

While I don't exactly fit the "I'm actually dominant in real life" trope, I have a strong personality and am constantly striving to improve myself, physically and mentally, and I tend to gravitate towards people with a similar drive. Having a partner with a genuinely dominant orientation who desires to take the reigns (so to speak) from time to time would be an immense comfort --- I'm often not in a position to turn off my racing thoughts, but I've found that being dominated and plunged into subspace brings me a peace of mind that nothing else really does.

I'm a moderately experienced kinkster, and I have a particular attraction to bondage and service submission (pet play intrigues me but is something I've never tried). These aren't necessarily requirements for me, but are merely some of the expressions of femdom I've especially enjoyed. While I don't expect my partner to be a "kink dispenser," I do expect them to be genuinely interested in kinky play (several people I've interacted with on Reddit see kink as a way to spice up sex or as a mild interest --- for me, it's more important than both, to be honest).

I'm 29 years old and I'm mainly interested in exploring this with people close to my own age: roughly 25 to 35 would be ideal, but those aren't necessarily hard boundaries. Connection and mutual trust are what matter most, so if I find someone who's easy to talk to, intelligent, and trustworthy, I'm open to negotiating most anything else. As you can probably tell, I'm one for extensive written communication, but don't let that be daunting --- I'm definitely worth the effort :)

Feel free to get in touch; I'd love to chat or exchange messages!