I am a bi man (lean towards women) seeking a Domme to explore/embrace my submissiveness. I wouldn't consider myself normally submissive, but I am increasingly aware of my praise kink, and I want to earn that praise. I'm looking to obey and serve for your pleasure and happiness in a 24/7 dynamic.

I am in a long-term relationship, and she is not and will not be aware of this. I do have a considerable amount of free time.

I am seeking a pleasure and nurturing Domme. Earning your praise, approval, and knowing I have pleased you is a much better motivator for me to obey/serve than fear/avoidance of punishment. I enjoy a small amount of degradation but not humiliation. Please control me with respect and compassion, and I will reward you with loyalty, obedience, and devotion.

Limits: pain, potty, humiliation, danger, cuckholding, anything illegal. Kinks: praise, ass play, spanking, light bondage, edging, orgasm control (within reason).

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I do not inherently believe that I am inferior to or exist only for a Dominant's pleasure. I will not immediately give up a lot of autonomy, but with time and trust that will change. I will set limits, and you will too. Open and honest communication is a must, and we can determine when and how often communication will be required in our dynamic.

I'm eager/willing to follow rules, tasks, and have accountability as long as they are reasonable/feasible and don't risk severely interfering with my life and relationships... at least, for a while. I want to please you and need your attention/praise/approval. I can be needy for attention when I am available.

In my personal life I can be sarcastic and defiant, but with the right Dominant that's not likely to come out. That's not how I wish to serve. I will want to be playful with banter, but I don't seek to push buttons and earn punishment. Any Dominant that wants a bratty sub needs to look elsewhere.

I want this to be a long-term arrangement with the expectation that this remains online-only and doesn't change my situation, but I am open to that evolving in the future. TPE seems highly unlikely, but it's untested. Obviously, that is a topic for a MUCH later date.

Physically, I'm 6' and about 215lbs of not-so-lean mass (if you want a fit sub, requiring me to make use of my existing gym membership is on the table), short brown hair, and a clean appearance.

For the day-to-day, I am mostly a homebody. I will spend a good chunk of time listening to vinyl records or watching various YouTube videos, and I enjoy learning about new whiskies (specifically bourbon). When the weather is warmer, I tend to be outside on the deck and playing with the dogs. I watch a lot of football during the fall and winter. I don't watch much TV, but I do like to binge the occasional show. Some of the shows I've been obsessed with at one time or another include GoT, Lucifer, Scrubs, and Reacher.