Hi there, I am seeking something very real, and very realistic. Mutually beneficial. Mutually fulfilling. Mutually rewarding relationship. An outwardly normal appearing relationship. An in person, face to face, hands on relationship. A relationship to share vanilla life, explore kink, and enjoy everything in between.

I am a masculine and muscular sub. I am very secure with my desires and interests. I am confident, intelligent, witty with a great sense of humor. I am not a slave, not a sissy, not a cuckold, not worthless, not a loser. I am very monogamous, well mannered, a bit old fashioned and still believe in chivalry.

I have many, varied vanilla interests. As well as many bdsm interests. Especially chastity. I have several stainless steel devices, and a couple titanium devices as well. I am secured with a pa piercing. You will always hold the only keys, and have ultimate control consensually. I am experienced with short term and long term denial. I submit all control over the duration of any length of denial to my partner freely and willingly. I am very functional and very sexual and do not seek chastity to mask any physical issues. I truly love the control of chastity.

Back to mutually beneficial, chastity is something I really enjoy. But only if my partner enjoys it at least as much as I do. Someone who enjoys being sexually selfish is extremely exciting to me. Someone who recognizes my desperation and responds with wanting an orgasm for herself is also extremely exciting to me. Guilt is a deal breaker for me. If you would feel bad or guilty, but continue for my benefit,  then it isn't mutually beneficial and I wouldn't be able to continue. There is no need for guilt if everything is negotiated and agreed upon. I seek someone who is motivated by my frustration and has fun with my frustration.

I am a moderate masochist, I enjoy pain. Especially if my discomfort pleases my partner. The more you enjoy it, the more I enjoy it. The more motivated you are, the more motivated I am.

I seek to better the life of my partner. Not complicate it. I don't care for a regimented life. That requires too much effort into rules and lists, and reviews. Micro management requires work on your part. Causing you any extra work is the opposite of my goal. I very much prefer to be given the freedom to please my partner based on current situation and circumstances. Allow me the opportunity to learn what makes you happy. Voluntary service is beneficial for both. I serve because it makes you happy, which makes me happy. And you know my service is because it makes you happy, rather than mandated. Allowing me to please you is so much more rewarding. And doesn't require any effort on your part. Just relax and enjoy my service and eagerness to please. I don't ask for time tables, or expectations as to my own release. It is entirely up to you. If you feel I have earned it today, next week, next month, or whenever, so be it. I cede that control to my partner freely and willingly.

I am successful, very aware of all the scams out there. I am not going to fall for anything. I have two houses in California. Palm Springs and Big Bear Lake. I split my time between them based on the weather. I am very open to helping my ideal partner relocate here if needed. I am also open to relocating for my ideal partner. Finding my ideal partner is more important than anything else.

Feel free to ask any questions I haven't already answered in this post. I am not desperate, I will not pursue if it turns out we are not compatible.