Hello, I'm a 39M looking for a D/s dynamic leading towards an eventual FLR. I'm gonna lay everything about me and what I am looking for out, please DM if you feel like this would be a good fit for you.

I'm 10 months seperated from my wife. Would be divorced if it wasn't for financial reasons which I'm happy to discuss. We are not interested in reconciliation. My marriage was very vanilla, and I'm not interested in doing a vanilla relationship again. I'm kinky, please be kinky also.

My looks: I'm 5'9" 210lbs. On a weightloss journey. Currently 90lbs down from my highest weight. Also at my lowest weight since high-school so I am very happy with my results so far but have further to go. White, brown hair, brown eyes, a glorious beard. Been called handsome quite a bit. Straight smile, good hygiene.

What I'm looking for: Looking for a domme/someone dominant, either local to Oregon or an online dynamic with someone willing to relocate to Oregon eventually. Preference is for a lady in the 25-40 age range. Willing to go outside this range, just DM me, and let's see if we click. Preference is to someone who is petite, hwp, or "slim thick" as I understand it. Okay with curvy just not looking for someone who would identify as BBW or larger. Looking for someone who is interested in helping me continue to better myself. Hold me accountable for going to the gym, ask about what I'm working on in therapy, ask if I'm completing the daily life tasks I need to be completing, etc. Be willing to travel to me and I'm willing to travel to you also. I have a full time job, secure housing situation, and an amazing 8yr old boy 50/50 custody, so I'm not always available to respond immediately. I believe in full, open, honest communication, which would include discussion about availability for this dynamic/relationship.

Spicy stuff: I'm willing to try most things twice, once for the 1st time to see if I like it or not, and a second time to cement that belief. Very oral, love giving, love receiving, love love doing both at the same time. Want to make sure you are pleased, both mentally and physically. Have experience with anal play both solo and pegging. Would like this to be a central theme in our relationship/dynamic. Curious about chastity, but would need to establish trust before proceeding. Not interested in feminization. Open to discussing things that would be important to you in this dynamic/relationship.

Vanilla interests: I'm a dad 1st, so any activity that brings joy to my son. Personally, I love the outdoors. Kayaking, camping, swimming, fishing are some of my favorites. Looking for a hiking partner, someone to push me to being more active at all times. Love foraging, and would like to learn more about this also. Love gardening and growing my own food. Love cooking. Artistic, my focus right now is painting, specifically erotic themes. Karaoke is a huge part of my life. Many other things too. Some common interests are a must.

If the above stuff sounds of interest to you, please sent me a chat invite with your age, location, a picture (SFW) and a thoughtful response on why you think this is what you are looking for. I will send a picture in return, promise. Hope to hear from you soon!