Introduction

Hey I’m Don, I’m a 24 year university student. I’m financially and emotionally stable despite enduring the most depressing weather the Netherlands has to offer. I’m here to offer you glimpse of what I and my life are like because I’ve got a spot reserved in it for someone special. A philosophical question that speaks to me is “what is the more important thing, to focus on in ethics; believing the right thing or doing the right thing?” I believe in the latter and what practically concludes from that is that I’ll therefore describe more of what I do than what I believe myself to be. We’ve all met people who talk a big game about what kind of good person they are, yet find their practice of those proclaimed virtues lacking. I don’t want to be someone like that to you and I hope my actions speak for who I am, show don’t tell.

Who am I? (Pictures) (my Goodreads)

I wake up everyday in my comfortable childhood bedroom and commute to the university of Amsterdam to take classes and study. For years I’ve been through a battle eye condition that made my dreams impossible. It was a sad and frustrating time in my life but I’ve made it through after being cured last summer. Everyday I’m so grateful that I get to live a day I thought would never come and I get to do what I love, studying history. I’ve never been happier than I am now.

I used to be really into video games as a teenager and still enjoy it somewhat, especially with good company. However now that I’m in control of my own destiny I feel the fire to achieve my dreams and do things I couldn’t before. A day full of videogames, alcohol and weed feels like a day wasted to me. I focus on things that give me true satisfaction after I’ve done them. I like the feeling of learning something new form reading a non-fiction book and I like the journey and emotions I experience when reading a novel. I don’t particularly like fitness but after lifting weights I get the good feeling I know I’ve done the right thing for my health. I do enjoy taking relaxing walks in the evening. Usually listening to music, I enjoy a variety of genres, but sometimes a friend tags along for a good talk. Sometimes I drop by to visit my grandparents for a bit on my way back, it’s important to treasure those most important to you while you still have them, I see them about 1 time(s) a week.

I work hard on being an A student but my results still resemble those of a B student to be completely honest. Sure a passing grade is a passing grade, but I’ve got a chip on my shoulder and I want to prove myself to myself with a realistic, measurable and achievable goal. I might be working on it but I’m far from a productivity machine. Besides being regularly human I feel like being raised gen Z my dopamine receptors have been fried and my attention span shrunk as a sacrifice at the altar of profit for big tech, I’m working on it.

I’ve been raised in a various harmonious household. I’m very happy with this privilege as my parents and I hug a lot and say what we like about each other regularly. I really look up to my older brother and he is my best friend and at home we basically sporadically hangout all throughout the day. When at university I’m always polite, cheerful and try to socialize with people and making someone laugh feels like a victory to me. However I’m not immune to moments of shyness and embarrassment, like everyone in certain crowds I find myself out of my depth.

Who am I Looking For?

What I’m looking for is for someone to be my friend or more besides being my Domme. I want to find someone who enjoys my company and wants to be with me for all of me. Too many times I’ve found people on this subreddit who are emotionally closed off to me and demand sexual favors none the less. This has really hurt me so if this is you please don’t bother, I deserve someone who respects me not despite or because of me being a sub. Physically I do want to be attracted to my partner but I’m not a guy who has a single type, I appreciate different kinds of beauty for their subjective charms. Personality wise there are traits that I value in people and people I like to be around and talk with tend to share these traits.

·         A curious spirit and a thirst for knowledge in their respective interests regardless of what they are

·         Self-reflection, communication and emotional intelligence because our actions aren’t perfect and we aren’t perfect people. But our intentions are almost always good but we can’t read minds.

·         Kindness and having a heart for the needy. Excessive Machiavellianism only leads to despair for all and having nothing besides it.

·         Bravery, because life is full of vulnerable emotions like love and it fearing it isn’t crazy. But fear doesn’t give you anything besides the lack of danger which in the absence of anything worth hurting over is emptiness.
·         Humor and goofiness, and I don’t mean in the “laughs at my jokes” sense. I’m confident enough to want to be with a woman who actually finds herself hilarious and looking at the bright side of life and looking at the goofy side of things.

Location wise my preferences would be as close as possible to me like: Netherlands, UK, Germany, France, Belgium, Denmark. Even places like Sweden, Norway, Poland, Czech Republic, Italy, Spain and Portugal I wouldn’t really consider a problem. But the larger the time difference the more difficulty. However I’d much rather find the right person in the wrong place than the wrong person in the right place.

My desires

What makes me come here instead of r4r is the fact that share a desire. Those desires are strong and those desires are femdom. I’ve had them as far as I can recall yet that doesn’t mean I want to live and breath a 24/7 hardcore Mistress/slave dynamic all the time. I’ve got plenty of submissive spark and masochist fuel in me but a fire can’t run on empty fuel. A fire however can last forever with a smaller flame which doesn’t burn through its fuel and I experience it the same way. My femdom desires can burn hot and the flame will roar for you. Yet other times I want more slow burning moments and just be your man. Not necessarily becoming dominant, though I can switch, but like a cute and loving boyfriend holding your hand and getting ice cream. However I would and wouldn’t mind you violating my ice cream with your mouth as a display of dominance, the duality of masochism is deep.

As for what makes me tick and my fire burn hot and hard:

·         Gentle/non gentle femdom, why choose one when you like both?

·         Objectification, just because I’m a sub doesn’t mean I like being a hot piece of ass for you. I like to be an object of desire and having you seize means of reproduction.

·         Teasing, because a smug domme exposing me and making fun of me with impunity is something to die for.

·         Displays of dominance put me in my place, preferably next to or under you

·         Body Worship what’s the point of me finding you extremely hot if you don’t even know it and I don’t even show it?

·         Emotional masochism like teasing but a bit more extreme and derogatory, stuff like SPH but I’ve been told it’s too big for that. But only you can judge that for sure.

·         Physical masochism, inexperienced so my pain limit isn’t that developed. But I do enjoy walking the edge between pain and pleasure.

Well if you’ve read this far I hope it meant you think we’d fit right together and I’ll hear from you. If that’s not the case but you still enjoyed/appreciated my post I’d appreciate your support. Lots and love and kind regards – Don.