Hello!

I am a 22 (almost 23) years old student from Germany who is looking to give some control of his life over to a willing woman.

What I am looking for

I am not looking for someone to completely control every aspect of my life, nor am I looking for someone to give money to, so if you’re into that, sorry, but you have to find someone else.

I would love to find a Domme, who cares for me and with whom I can talk when the days are rough for either of us. I want this to not be a one time thing, but for us to build a relationship that could last long term, even if it only stays online. So while we would have a sub-dom relationship, I’d still love to sometimes just talk about anything, and for you to be understanding when I’m not in the mood or uncomfortable. I want us to trust each other and tell us our feelings. In return I would treat you respectfully and how you wanted me to, while giving you (complete) control of some parts of my life.

While I obviously also mean control in the bedroom, I could see your control expanding into other areas of my life, as long as we’ve previously talked about it. This could be that on some days you get to decide what I wear. Or you could force me to do other, non-sexual stuff. As long as we’ve talked about this before and both feel comfortable, I would be open to try it out! I would also love to give you complete control of my sexual life. You get to control when I get/ have to masturbate and when I am allowed to orgasm. You could also decide what I have to get off to, or the way I have to masturbate. My pleasure belongs to you.

I’d prefer a woman between 20 and 40 who lives in a similar time zone as me. That way it’s easier for both of us to chat. If you don’t fit in these requirements but still think that it could work out between us, shoot me a shot! Maybe I’ll agree with you, and we can both have fun!

A little bit about me

Now that I have explained what I am looking for, I can tell you a bit about me. I am willing to say more once we start talking, so if you have any questions feel free to ask. If I’m uncomfortable with answering, I will tell you.

I’m a German guy about to turn 23 next month. Currently I’m studying in a university. I really love cooking, listening to music, playing with my niblings, playing video games, meeting friends and I’m trying to get into drawing, although my art thus far looks terrible. I’m usually more of a quiet guy, but when I like someone I start opening up to them, and you will probably have trouble shutting me up :D

Looks wise I think I’m pretty average. I’m pretty slim, but I’m not doing any sports right now, which I’m looking to change soon. With 6’0/ 183cm I have a pretty average height. I look pretty “German”, due to my blue eyes and blonde hair, although I don’t want to share a picture of my face until I feel comfortable to.

To answer some generic questions:

I like cats and dogs, although I used to hate cats in the past (it luckily changed after receiving cat propaganda for years)

My favorite color is blue (ik, basic)

I like a lot of different genres of music, ranging from rock to metal to (some) pop to rap to even classical music at times. I think the only music I don’t like listening to are folk songs. I do have a favorite band, which I’m eager to share in the dms.

Some general kinks

Generally, I’m open to exploring a lot of different kinks. I do have some limits, which I’ll mention later. If you want to, I can make a kinkslist for you, so you know what I’m into and what not. I definitely like exchange of power or control, either controlling someone or being controlled, and being at the mercy of someone else’s decisions (and mood). I also like a bit of pain, but not too much. Gentleness is another thing I really like, I definitely prefer a woman who kindly tells me what I have to do than a woman insulting me for doing something wrong.

Oh and although I wouldn’t classify it as a kink, I am bisexual but preferring (and only looking for) women.

Limits

There may be some things which I dislike and couldn’t think of, if we encounter these I will tell you. But there are also things that are hard limits for me, or I know that I’ll get uncomfortable if we did that.

I’m definitely not into scat or furries. I’m not opposed to pet play, but I’m not really attracted to furries or want to be one.

I also don’t want you to be cruel or insulting. While I would want to be punished when I make a mistake, and would be ok with being insulted or taunted a little, I don’t want you to outright shame me for something.

This is also a relationship between us. I don’t want to bring other people into this, neither from your end, nor from mine. I also won’t do anything (obviously sexual) in public.

I’m also not comfortable with sharing (identifiable) pictures, namely of my face. That means I won’t sent you a face pic, but other body parts are alright. Until I’m more comfortable, I also won’t share my voice.

While I’m looking for you to control me, I do not want constant denial. Of course not always, but I want to be allowed (or forced) to have a release sometimes.

Also, I won’t buy any (expensive) tools you want me to use, as my financial situation isn’t the best right now… If you want me to use something, either you have to get it to me, or I need to have it beforehand.

The rest

This is a rather long post, and the Reddit app makes it difficult to edit the post, so if I forgot something or made a mistake, I’m sorry.

If you read this far and are interested, please text me with your age, general location and how I’m supposed to address you. You can also ask me any questions you want. We don’t need to start with the Sub-Dom relationship right away, but can get to know each other first, if that’s what you want, but that is up to you.

Ofc if you speak German, we can also use that, but I am fine with English.

I feel like currently the world is turning into shit, so let us help each other to make us feel better. I’d be happy to serve you.