Hi there.

Submissive male, 39, central Jersey, wondering if there are any dominant women in the area interested either in casual fun or a potential relationship.

I don't have much experience at all in the BDSM scene, but most of my relationships have involved some fairly tame aspects of control and tease & denial, and I've realized in the past couple of years that I would really like my submission/my partner's dominance to be a bigger part of any relationship I have going forward.

I tend to prefer a more playful dynamic than something ultra-stern and severe ("gentle femdom", I suppose, is the technical term for what I'm into), and I'm definitely not looking for you to control every aspect of my life. But I would love to meet a partner who is into things like teasing, orgasm control, light bondage, possibly chastity (even if only mental/honor system), and essentially just driving me out of my mind. Whips and cuffs and so on can be fun, and I'm not opposed to them, but what it really comes down to for me is the feeling of obeying an intelligent and attractive woman, probably between the ages of 26-45 or so. That feeling could be manifested in scenarios as seemingly tame as you telling me to bring you a cup of coffee, or to look at the floor while you get changed. Nothing drives me crazier than knowing that a woman is getting pleasure out of...well, driving me crazy.

About me?

I like to read, write, listen to heavy/weird music, go to the movies, run along the boardwalk when it's not freezing out, and talk about traveling to foreign countries and sometimes even do it. I'm not much of a drinker these days, but I can still pretty easily be persuaded into a bar, especially if there's some local band playing. Let's just say that if you like to read and have a sense of humor, I think there's a pretty decent chance we'll get along.

Anyway, feel free to send me a DM or chat request. I don't bite!