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All of my best memories share making decisions that don’t quite align with what is considered socially normal. So here I am trying to make beautiful memories with a beautiful soul. 

Personal qualities:

I am 25M, the INFJ-T personality type fits me well. In short, I am in touch with my feelings and my favorite 4 traits about myself are that I am free, patient, deep, and curious. I am 5’8” / 173cm tall, and here is how I look :)

I love to learn and dabble with new things. Some of my interests are hiking and being in nature, ultimate frisbee, reading and writing, deep conversations about psychology, philosophy, neuroscience, riligions. Also being active (calisthenics and yoga) and eating healthy. Oh and recently I got into taking artsy nudes. 

What I am seeking:

I am looking for something special, something I always dreamed about and am so excited to bring to reality. I am serious about it, so serious inquiries only.

I am seeking a connection that is based on a deep D/s psychological base that mainly revolves around irl domestic service. I want to be your live-in sub whose main focus in life is you. You will be superior to me and have my complete devotion and obedience.

The odds I would find someone compatible where I currently live are really low, so I want to fly to meet you and be your sub. I have flown to meet a former partner before and I find it so intimate. So I am looking for an in-person connection and distance won’t be an issue.  However, we will have to get to know each other well online and I will verify and request verification so I don’t lose a kidney. 

I want to be honest, I am not in a place where I want to settle, I have applied for grad school for Fall 2025 and am waiting on the results, so essentially this is going to be short term unless something special happens and the flow goes the other way. That in no shape, way, or form means I won’t commit to you or it won’t be deep and genuine or it has to end on bad terms. It will be genuine but may not last forever and that doesn’t make it less beautiful.

What I bring: 

Understanding and Acceptance:

You are a human before being a Domme. Even if we live in a 24/7 dynamic, staying in the Domme character is a recipe for disaster. I am not expecting you to be my supernatural Domme who has zero struggles in life. Everyone goes through ups and downs, yes you can be a Domme and have confidence issues. Submission is about making your life better, so supporting you when you are down is something I look for. You being vulnerable in front of me and crying will make me more attracted to you as a person and a Domme because it shows how comfortable you are around me. 

Complete Obedience:

I am seeking true submission where your needs and desires are what I care for. I am not a brat, and will give you complete devotion and obedience. I’m also creative and give attention to details and will impress you :) 

Communication and Honesty:

Playing games in relationships is my biggest turn off. I will communicate my feelings with you and expect us to communicate openly on a regular basis. 

Loyalty and Commitment: 

It is all about trust, one thing that drives me to commit and be loyal is that, otherwise I would lose interest in the connection. You will be my only Domme, even if this dynamic involves more than us, submitting to others will only happen if you command me to and will stem from submitting to you.

High-Quality Domestic Service: 

I am very service oriented, I have lived on my own before and know how to take care of a household. I want to run your errands and take care of chores. I also know how to cook :)

Enthusiasm to explore:

I am a very curious and open person, I like to try everything at least once. I find labels limiting, so even if we want to try something that does not fit a certain label I would be open to that.

Friendship and Support:

I would like to be your friend and do fun things with you outside of kink.

Cute smile and golden retriever eyes. 

Intentions

It is all about intentions. Intentions are what drives me to seek this connection:

• I feel content, safe, and happy when I submit. Submission gives me a sense of purpose in life. I have always wanted to submit to someone who genuinely understands what submission and Domination mean. I want to be more present in my life and bring this dream to reality. P.S. Most of my online dynamic experiences lack humane respect and are draining. 
• I want this dynamic to help us both to grow. Yes, I want to do the dishes for you, but I want to be there for you to grow as a person. I want to be your support and give you all you need. I want to grow too, so I seek closeness. 

Who I am looking for:

I don’t expect you to be perfect. You can be a Domme and have insecurities, and as a sub I want to help you overcome them. Also, I don’t have a rigid specific type when it comes to physical appearance or even domination style (mommydom, sadistic, etc..); I see beauty in everything. Just please be taking care of your body and health, and have the desire to Dominate. The following points are what I care about:

Non-negotiables: 

• We can have decent convos 
• We have good honest communication 
• You understand the value of domination and it is rooted in you as a form of intimacy. Not that you want a sub out of laziness, or missprojected frustration on misogyny.
• You find me physically attractive.

Preferences:

• You like hiking and being in nature and/or we have common interests. 
• You are curious and love to explore new things. 
• You want me to be your friend too and that wouldn’t make you less attracted to me as a sub.
• You have a garden/homestead. 
• You are located in South America or South Africa (this has to do with the location, not the ethnicity.)

Limits (and kinks?):

My limits are:

• Not respecting time that I need to work and recharge. I need to work to sustain myself and time to recharge to be your great sub. 
• If you are into feminization-based-humiliation. I am open to feminization, and humiliation, but not if it involves humiliation because I am feminized. I find this quite misogynistic. 
• Things that involve physical and/or mental permanent damage to you or myself. Impact play does not belong here as it is not permanent damage.
• Your limits and dislikes. 
• Animals, and minors.
• Public where unconsented people can see.

My kinks are irrelevant. submission in the dictionary is "the action of accepting or yielding to a superior force or to the will or authority of another person." Including what I like is counterproductive. It’s quite psychological for me; I mainly seek submission, physical kinks revolve around that and really vary based on the connection. I am open to most things but mentioning my physical kinks here is irrelevant. I’ll make a lil exception tho and mention feet/body worship 🫣. 

If you are still reading, thank you. 

Please reach out to me if this resonates with you. Feel free to suggest other ideas that you think could work between us, I am always open to new ideas. Also please make your message interesting. You could send me a creative message, or tell me how your dream house looks, or your favorite part of my post. 

P.S. I don’t expect to live rent-free and am open to all ages above 18.

With love,

Ash