Hi there! How are you??? I feel like we haven't talked in forever. Girl. Sit down I have so much to share.

I'll try to keep this short, sweet, and neat.

I'm in my early 30s. I am single, never married, no kids, don't want kids. I am chubby/plus sized/fat. This is not a huge thing, and can be fixed with lifestyle changes.

I have an OK job, but it isn't giving me much. So I need to find a new one, that supports my long-term goals (like, not being homeless at 60, for example)

A day in the life: it's pretty decent. I've been single for a couple of years, living with family post breakup. - go millennials! I work nights, and my job is relaxed. When I'm not working, I can be a trivia night out, or a Wes Anderson and snuggles on the couch type of person. I am very big on being happy, maybe I got something knocked loose lol. I know a lot of jokes, and I'm a music library. I have eclectic tastes from karaoke classics to extremely niche samples, and everything in between!

You can usually find me: at work, or at my PC gaming with friends and in voice chat.

So why am I posting here? Well truth be told this is something that I need. I am a very complicated person with a very specific set of sexual interests that have left me high and dry- without an owner, without a Goddess, and without a best friend.

I have not had luck on fetlife, but I have had hit and miss luck on here.

What I can offer as a submissive and companion: first, and foremost, my unwavering dedication to you. Second, I am a very unique person who can handle himself in daily life. I am not a doormat, and can often bring unseen solutions to complex problems. I understand BDSM in a broader context, and am not interested in using this as a sexual outlet - that's not to say I'm not interested in sex. I am a VERY. Horny. Boy.

I want this, to be a long lasting friendship. One where we both understand BDSM, and we both crave it at our core.

I saw a post the other day that said, from a Doms perspective: "I love when my sub is gagged. Every muffled moan and groan gives me goosebumps".

I am very desperate to find someone who enjoys being in control as much as I enjoy relinquishing it. I can relinquish my control to literally anyone. I have had past partners indulge in my fantasies, at my request. I appreciate that, so much. But I want something organic, something that can't be explained or found when looking. It's a feeling deep in me, and in you.

With that said, I'd like to leave some things I am interested in, okay with, and not okay with. Mind you this list changed and evolves, it has no order, and ultimately my MAIN turn on is literally doing a good job.

From the beginning: chastity, denial, light/moderate CBT, pegging, prostate play, collars, long term collaring, chastity piercings, nipple clamps, immobilization/bondage, latex, masks, gags, estim, sounding, nursing, bathroom control, impact play, watersports

These are things I am OK with and would like to have in my life at some point, at least once.

Things that are not okay: cheating, (I'm happy to share but cheating is not cool, mkay), scat play, anything involving sexual acts with animals or children (obviously), I am not okay with castration (vasectomies we can talk about (; )

Overall. I am me. I have positive energy, I have a busy ish life. I know the etiquettes when meeting and vetting people, and I enjoy creating art. I am lonely, and I have waves of emotions in me regarding BDSM that I would absolutely love nothing more than to see to fruition. (No pressure lol)

And in case you did want to reply, but something just isn't for you, that's okay to. I am open to friends, small chats, and whatever else.

Tell me about your favorite foods, tell me about your favorite movie you saw as a kid. Tell me about the best dream you ever had. Hell, tell me about what got you into BDSM. Tell me about your bucket list. I am open!

Cheers!