As Gandalf once said to Frodo “I’ve been on a long journey”. I’ve had a long time to explore the kind of kinks I like, and to look for someone with whom I might have a good connection. And I decided that what I really want is a gentle femdom relationship with a girl who is willing to make me feel little/young again, even as we grow old together.

Age: 36, 37 next month, open to 24-40. Age isn’t the end all be all of a relationship. Older women are Better to talk to because they know more than me, and can give me some advice on how to prepare for the future. But Younger women also know more than me, but can sometimes have more energy to match against me.

Appearance: 5'11", Bald currently (use to be blonde but it was growing thin. Points if you make it can regrow it thick and long like a Viking), blue eyes (brown spot in left), glasses, though sometimes contact lenses, white skin, stocky body type. I’m trying to make my attire more neutral and more semi formal, with exception to work clothes obviously.

I hope you find me attractive.

Face:

Body

Loccation: Central Eastern CA, past Central Valley. I’m currently open to LDR, however I would love for you to drive up here sometime, and we can spend a night either camping by the lake or at a hotel.

Looking For: A Dominant woman who can convince me to say “I love you”, and stay with me through thick and thin, even if we are miles appart. I understand if she wants to keep things open at first. Being a distance away, it is never right to force someone to be exclusive, and I’d want her to decide when we should teach that point.

DEFINITELY NOT looking for a service domme, or a findom, or a pro dominatrix who wears leather pants and corsests with a cat mask and a whip who turns you into a punching bag/pin cushion. Kinks I’ll get to later, but I want something based on an actual RELATIONSHIP! I want someone as organically interested in going out for coffee and telling me what she’d like me to order her, as she is in handcuffing me, dressing me up like a princess and telling me I’m her “sweet girl” or something like that!

Traits I look for partner: fun, loving, trustworthy, open, Mixed sense of humor, not too adult-ey with others unless they’re a client or a lawsuit opponent.

Non-sexual interests: Currently I’m mostly interested in folksy stuff. I love folk music, fairs/festivals/Weighnachtsmarkts, Kranpuslaufen, hammered dulcimers, cosplay, crafts etc. outside of that I’m into D&D, reading, cooking, hiking, and a multitude of other interests. Outdoor activities include snowboarding and swimming primarily. However I love camping when I can get arround to It. Recently donated by tent to a homeless fellow. It’s important to care about others and be mindful of what we have and what others don’t.

Personality: I’m autistic. Hard working, passionate, excitable, easily amused, introverted mostly but one or two people at a time is good. I’m pragmatic. I’m working on being n a lot less compromising for others and when to say no. I try to be silly in appropriate situations but most of the time I’m a bit serious. I’m bilingual between English and German.

I can be reasonable, but I am both a former martial artist and a United States veteran. And so even though I do not like violence, I am ready to throw down when things are heated. But if you like, I can teach you some takedowns and holds that I think are really hottt😘.

Fun facts: I sing opera. I’ve been singing since I was 12. I just returned home after working a year and a half in the German opera market.

Sexual stuff

I consider myself a switch sub. But if needs be I can try to follow the golden adage of “Be the person you needed when you weren’t aroused” as a way of reflecting what I’d like from a dominant woman.

Definitely don’t mind being sub both in and outside the bedroom. PDA is definitely a big turnon for me

Sexual (and relationship) interests: I had a mistress/girlfriend before I went overseas, so I’ve had the chance to try some things with her. I’m mostly into femdom. Role reversal, some feminization.

• Role reversal/gentle femdom are the main things for me! As the saying goes, “ladies first”, so I definitely want someone who makes the first move, and doesn’t back down. Physical intimacy is a big plus for me, and a little CNC actually goes a long way. If you MAKE me hug/kiss you… weak knees🥹🥹🥹. Since I’m a bit of a larger guy, I have always been very self conscious about how I act arround a woman in terms of physical contact, because if you do something too hard it’s easy to hurt someone. I’m typically affraid of initiating contact, so for me it makes me feel a little less fearful when I don’t have to worry about that.

• pin me down? Yes please(if you can). Twist my arm and hold me close? That’s not all you can twist😉. Lock the door behind us and make me feel trapped with your dominant prowess?? Oh dear, what EVER will I do😍😍?? Straightjackets? Ok, so RIGHT THERE, we gotta have a technical talk first ✋🏻🛑. If you’re posessive like a yandere, we can make that work in some scenes. If you’re demanding or teasing like a little tsundere, there’s a place for that too. If you are like a mommy domme, just take care of me wether I like it or not.

• my experience with pegging and plugs and prostate massaging was not negative, but it wasn’t as effective as I’d want it to be, so I’m interested in discussing ways to make it more arrousing to the point of climax.

Soft limits: I’ve never done chastity, but I’m open to exploring it. However I want to make sure it’s not done at the same time as gagging. As far as sharing, I’m not into guys, so that’s why I say you can keep things open if you want, but any more than the two of us, and it’s gonna be another woman putting her hands on me.

Hard limits (non exhaustive): Scat, pee, blood, getting punched in the balls, cuckolding, chastity, permanent injuries, physical torture, cooking fish in the microwave…

If it is permanent, or ingested, then it is OUT THE DOOR!!!👎🏻👎🏻, scat/fluids/cum ingestion? NOPE. Public exposure? More like public breakup! Sharing? Blood/Broken bones/blue balling? YEEER OUTA THERE👉🏻👉🏻🧢

Partner preferences: I have never found, but would LOVE to finally date a woman taller than me. I’m 5’11, so dating someone 6’ and up would make me weak in the knees. I don’t really have a type as far as fashion, but there are SOME personality things that don’t really make the grade. You could be a bit of a pixie, but done be someone who acts OBLIGATED to interact with another person or doesn’t show SOME real emotion. You could be a rugged girl like a biker or a quad driver, but I do draw the line at cowgirl personalities, the twang is just… no. You could be a gym rat, and I’ll be happy to join you, and you could outperform me and make me feel weak, but DONT be someone who makes me feel insecure about it. I had ONE relationship like that, and it was the absolute only one I ended initially.

Some direct dealbreakers I have are for people who are extremely and overtly religious or political. I DO NOT do those things, and for personal reasons. We can talk about eachothers inclinations outside of intimacy and see if we mesh or clash if it is absolutely necessary. However I want to keep the ugly part of the workd OUTSIDE of what we have.

red flags: all cards on the table so you’re not getting anything less than the real carfax; I’m financially working towards paying off debts, leasing new car, and getting back on my feet financially so that’ll be main priorities for me, hence LDR. I am autistic as mentioned before, so there are some communication and social quirks to watch out for, plus I may not appear to have emotions. I have suffered from depression/anxiety/suicidal tendencies, and sometimes they flare up when times get difficult. I can be stubborn when I don’t understand when things go wrong and I ask why, and it DOES NOT help to just say things like “that’s just the way things are” or “it is what it is”, because Saying those things is a lot more hurtful and demeaning than it is helpful; immagine going through something awful in your life and people being stone faced with you. I don’t like it, and you don’t either. Also I do not like artichokes, squash, or turnips or American beer. I haven’t been on a rollercoaster in a while so I’m not sure how I feel about them.

And that’s me, with a lot of effort in this post. So please feel free to reach out, tell me about yourself. And just so I know you’re real, tell me what DND character you’re bringing to my home brew adventure.