Hello Reader and dear friends,

I have always found this process in itself to be quite sweet. To cast out a ‘message’ and hope that the right person reads it and finds their way back to you. Also so long as you can see this, it means I haven’t found someone that I am currently pursuing, meaning if this is old, you can still respond to it.

My name is A, I am 26 years old (the years have flown by) and I am currently doing my master’s in the physics science-y side of things. I am proficient in things that involve reading or writing, I have a tendency of becoming absorbed in one area of life and will obsess over it for months (last major one was the art of running).

Physically, I am average height (164 cm the last time I checked), plus size and black. My most notable features are my eyes and I suppose I have a good voice too. I do have some piercings and no tattoos but I come across as very soft and sweet to most people. Worth noting that I am not from Germany and I am from the southern hemisphere so my general cultural predisposition kinda aligns with that (we’re warm friendly people).

My BDSM journey has been one that has been filled with a lot of surprises. I have now taken comfort in knowing what I want. I only ask that you respond if you are truly looking for the same things and to be kind in your interactions with me.

My domination style:

I almost want to describe it as a presence that you feel but can’t see. A shadow that follows you around. I am prolific at psychological dominance; this is where I get my sustenance. There is no greater joy than to sink my hands into a sub’s mind and to linger there. I do enjoy the physical side of it but I utilize it as a tool of reinforcement for the mental side. I am possessive to each heartbeat. In short, I have grown to love having ownership over my submissive counterpart. I lean towards a TPE once a good basis and connection has been formed. I also have very strong caregiver tendencies (not a mommy dom though) and sadistic ones too.

Also a nod to the title:

I regard my sub to be the creature of my desire. One that I feed on and slowly poison to be my object. That with time, we’re fused and live in symbiosis.

My preferred submission style:

I have the softest spot for service subs. Ones who are driven by the very need to serve. I have very fond memories of previous subs being able to anticipate my needs (whether it be having specific meals cooked for me based on my moods or sorting out my travel plans.). Obedient subs are cherished and whilst the occasional disobedience is bound to happen, I know that a bratty sub would be deeply unhappy with me.

My kinks:

I truly have no interest in disclosing any of them here. Compatibility is important to me yes but I know that the physical acts themselves do take a backseat and I am perfectly happy with that. However, things that I know that I cannot live with that do include some edge play: breath play, blood/vampire kink, mutual body worship, collar/leash, emotional sadism and protocols.  Hard limits: Age play, sissification, latex, scat and anything illegal. Again not a mommy domme.

Openness and direct communication is important because I cannot steer a ship if I do not know its current condition.

My type:

I don’t particularly have any physical preferences, my subs have been bald and tall or they have had long hair and closer to my height. The only common thread between all of them has been very beautiful eyes, and they’ve all been quite well read intelligent rule breakers ( I know the jokes write themselves). I like people who are physically affectionate and very vocal about what they like enjoy. I like very protective people and simply people who are curious about life, cultures and how things work.

More on me:

Finally the good stuff! Kidding.

I think I am funny too, I know that I am very caring. I do spend a lot of time writing (sometimes kink writing too). I love having conversations with my friends because they’re always teaching me something new. I spend a good amount of time just learning/reading about new things. I am vegan/vegetarian, this isn’t a requirement in a partner but I am. I like being in nature. There’s so much more but I think a conversation is an easier way to discover this. I have a lot fun visiting new places too.

What I am looking for in general:

• Someone within the EU, North of Germany, Netherlands, CZ and Denmark because of distance constraints. I would prefer it if you lived closer and if you don’t then have the ability to visit at least once a month.
• Between 23 – 34 years old.
• A monogamous romantic relationship/emotional bond for the long term, this is very important.
• Long term shared points (career, desire to have children, marriage and travels) a feel for what that current timeline looks for you.
• Good comprehension and communication skills
• Honesty and desire to build a dynamic with me:)
• Strong sense of self.
• Speaks at least 2 languages (3 is actually ideal)
• Someone who is comfortable interacting with others. My subs have generally been the ones who make orders for me (under my instruction) at restaurants and etc.
• Someone romantic
• A really great sense of humour!!
• Being physically active. (This has been a cornerstone in my life – whether it be weekly hikes/walks in nature or tennis, dance and swim classes)

‘Okay, I think I am interested what is next?’

Please answer the following questions:

1. How do you view time? For example, when you picture the month, do you see the months in a straight line? One after the other? Do you group them? Are they circular?
2. How much experience do you have? What do you look forward to in a dynamic?
3. Why did you respond?

Then anything extra, I love reading so a mountain of text or a recording to listen to would be nice:)

I would expect a reasonably early exchange of photographs, so we know what we look like (we’re humans) and if all goes well a phone call -> a date somewhere.

Thank you dear reader for reading this. I wish you all the best in your journey:)

^{have a nice day:})