Hi there, and thanks for stopping by! 

I’m a kind and open minded guy working and living in NYC in search of a Domme for a long term relationship. I have had some casual experiences in the past as a sub, and after some time observing, understanding and accepting my submissive nature, I am now ready to finally come out and find my dominant long term partner.

About me:

• I’m tall, athletic and fit looking. Angular face with brown hair and hazel eyes. Happy to share photos over DM
• I’m generally a very organized person and like to have a plan for things in general while in vanilla settings. This means I like knowing what I’ll do with my time, getting things done, taking care of personal admin and generally have a sense of progress over time towards achieving personal and professional goals. I suspect that is also why I like losing that control in the bedroom, but that’s just a hypothesis
• Personality wise, I lean more towards introversion, but I’ve worked on myself over time and today I enjoy going out and being social with friends and meeting new people
• I lover learning new things and investing in my personal growth
• I am pro-therapy, and really enjoy understanding my thought patterns and improving over time to be the best version of myself with my loved ones
• I am also a very curious person, always researching topics that interest me and engaged in new knowledge
• I am very open minded and also open to feedback of all kinds, which helps me check myself and make sure I improve over time in relationships and life in general
• I have a healthy community of friends in NYC that I regularly hang out with, which I really appreciate and care for 
• I am healthy, STD, drug & disease free, and I would prefer you are as well
• I’m a very thoughtful and caring individual, supportive of my community and loved ones and always trying to help them move forward

My interests and hobbies: 

• I live a healthy lifestyle, which means I work out regularly at the gym or outdoors, and I also enjoy running and doing yoga on a weekly basis.
• I also follow a plant based diet, rarely drink alcohol and don’t do drugs 
• I’m very much into reading and writing and love constantly learning new things 
• I love going to the movies, and I enjoy sci-fi, superhero movies, documentaries, shows
• I also like gaming, although I barely have time to do it a few hours every other week
• I also enjoy concerts and cultural events in the city, such as going to museums or exhibitions 
• I’m big into personal growth and also nutrition
• I generally have my shit together professionally, financially and personally. I match my 401k every year, have a good job and I’m saving for my retirement like a good boy
• I also enjoy being in nature and doing activities outside the city such as hiking, going to the beach or just a weekend trip somewhere fun

Here are some of my kinks:

• Pegging
• Fingering & overall anal training
• Spanking
• Verbal degradation/humiliation
• Chastity
• Face sitting 
• Edging 
• Orgasm control & denial 
• Collar & leash 
• Happy to discuss more over private messages, and I'm generally curious and open to trying things I haven't done before
• In general I really enjoy being used for my Domme’s pleasure and being at her disposal

What I’m looking for:

• As I mentioned above, I’m not looking just for a quick casual fix, but for a relationship that can organically grow over time and ideally turn into a long term romantic partnership. This is important, and I need us to click outside the bedroom in vanilla settings and personality wise in order for the relationship to work
• I am looking for someone ideally between 30 and 40 years old, although if you’re slightly below or above, that’s not a dealbreaker
• Location is very important to me and touch is one of my main love languages. I don’t do well with long distance relationships, so ideally you’re based in NYC and available to meet in person
• I’m looking for someone that is single and emotionally available. I am not interested in poly, ENM or Dommes that want to top multiple subs. 
• I would also prefer that you have a career, and more importantly a passion that you’re investing your time in
• I generally do well with women that enjoy reading, learning new things, are interested in cultural activities and have a growth mindset
• I prefer left leaning and progressive individuals, pro-choice and vaccinated

Our dynamic:

• I would love for our dynamic to be perfectly vanilla outside the bedroom while a strong D/s dynamic in the bedroom, letting you lead and do as you please within agreed boundaries.
• I’m a very discrete and private person in general, so it’s important for me to keep our dynamic in the bedroom
• If we hit it it off, I would like to sit down with you and brainstorm what things we want to try with each other (in the bedroom and for vanilla activities outside) while we also discuss boundaries, limits and safe words to make sure our play is consensual within agreed limits
• In general I value individuals that are good at interpersonal communication and with whom I can discuss our problems to reach solutions that work for both of us. This is easier said than done, but I believe that putting the work to understand each other is essential for relationships to work in the long term
• I’m interested in both receiving but also giving pleasure to my partner

I’m happy to answer any questions over DM, so please don’t hesitate to reach out if any of this sounds interesting.

Thanks for reading and looking forward to hearing from you!