2025 is here and I'm not getting any younger, might as well put myself out here to look for that special connection.

So let me introduce myself: I'm u/sRemy94, 30yo and living in the Netherlands. In my vanilla life I'm a photographer and art educator. In my free time you can find me at the cinema (the last film I watched was Nosferatu), going out for a good walk, cuddling with my cats, playing boardgames with friends or be at a bar to enjoy some people around me. I used to work at a bar for a long time, but now that time is behind me I don't drink as often and enjoy a good alcohol free beer.

Also good to know: I am on the left of the political spectrum, progressive and have no interest in anyone who is not. There is no place for bigotry, homo/transphobia and in general stupid people.

I've been bullied in the past and that pretty much ruined my self-esteem. I've had quite a big depression for some years, but these days I'm doing well and start to feel more confident about myself.
But because of the depression and self-esteem I'm not as skinny as I'd like to be. Wouldn't call myself fat at all, but definitely chubby, which doesn't help in the self-esteem department. Starting to work on that this year as well. Because of that I'm also kind of a late-bloomer. I've got some sexual encounters, but wouldn't call myself experienced at all.

So what am I looking for then?
I've noticed a lot of ads on here focus on just looking for a femdom, but they seem to miss the point of looking for an actual connection first and foremost.

I'm looking to connect with someone who is able to hold a good conversation, is interested in the same things, or at least is able to show interest and is able to listen. You can expect the same from me.
I'm curious about your daily life and aside from kink would just like to know how you are and what is going on in general.

That being said I'm interested in eventually growing into a FLR, but for starters let's just explore some gentle femdom.

What are my kinks?
I'm not going to name everything here, and I'm also open to explore more.
But I'm interested in the following things:

• Edging: someone controlling my pleasure instead of myself
• JOI: Following instructions and proving my devotion to someone
• Chastity: Giving up control of my own pleasure and truly giving someone else control (safe of course)
• Humiliation: calling me names mostly gets me going

Like I said, there are more kinks, but let's safe them for an actual conversation.

Interested and now what?
You found yourself being interested in my ad and now what?
Please get in contact with me through DM and let's get to know each other a little bit before we move on. Preferably you're also located in the Netherlands and are willing to meet up in the not so distant future, but I'm not opposed to taking things a bit slower and talk online as well.

If you don't live in the Netherlands and just want to keep the fun online, that's also fine with me, but you should let me know this ahead of our conversation.

I'm a native Dutch speaker, but as you noticed I'm perfectly capable of speaking English as well.

Hope to talk to you soon!
Best,

sRemy94