Alright here goes, this is gonna be long so if you make it to the end i'd be surprised but if you do and are still interested then there may be something there and please message. 44 male, not submissive in daily life nor would i be in our daily outside relationship, I am however old school and will treat you with kindness and love and decency and respect. Living in Montreal Canada active in local events and the community have been involved in kink from a fairly young age

Here's the bottom line. I have been hurt and screwed over and lied to and cheated on by everyone i have ever been with and i am done with that! If you have ever lied or done any of that to a partner please move along, If you are open/ Poly/ enm or any variation of that move along, i am monogomous and will play or do scenes with other people But I DO NOT AND WILL NOT HAVE SEX OR WANT MY PARTNER HAVING SEX WITH ANYONE BUT ME during after or before play or at all in general in our relationship PERIOD! While play can be sexual in nature.. actual sexual contact (and c'mon were adults you know what that means) is not ok and a HARD limit for me ZERO exceptions. My last relationship ended just over half a year ago and drug out till December and now its a new year and i want to move on, is there still pain there yes, can the right person and kink help heal that trauma yes i believe it can! I dont plan to trauma dump or take any of my old things into new relationship but i have standards and limits and boundaries i have set for myself due to the past that i will not bend on for anyone and if that means im alone for the rest of my life then so be it and for goodness sakes if i cant trust you then whats the point! I want love first then add a dynamic into our relationship as it comes after that ! I lean more towards wanting to be a slave rather than sub i am really interested in a 24/7 FLR Domme/Slave dynamic when at home. My favorite asthetic is and has been for a long time is goth, and would love to find my forever goth Gf /Domme/Wife. Im 44 and at my age i figure go for broke and try to get what i want and we all deserve that, i am in shape and healthy and expect you to be too. I am more than fine and prefer younger than me not too young id say 30 is my limit or someone around the same age not really looking for older but i wont say no if its the right connection. I dont drink or smoke or do any drugs and expect the same! Sex isnt the most important thing in the world for me, i have had sex once since 2014 but love to please my partner sexually how they wish, I am spirtiual but not religious if your not thats ok but for the love of alll that is good NO Satanists or variations threof. As badly as ive been screwed over i surprisingly for a while thought i was done with dating and relationships and the lifestyle i still somehow have love to want to give the right person. I dont want to waste my time anymore, life is short which is why i am laying it all out and being clear about what i want. I want a relationship where no one matters but us, i want a woman just as in love and obsessed with me than i am her. That no other guys matter or girls or theys. Do i have trust and abandonment issues and other traumas yes. But they dont rule my life, I wil expect us both to have open communication trust and respect and be 100 percent open and honest about our entire lives and respect all boundaries and limits of our relationship and dynamic. I have major issues concerning my partners safety when they go out thanks to the past and require us both to have 100 percent access to each others lives, that means phones and computers and knowing the who, what, how, where and why of each others lives including having gps on phones. And no this isnt a control thing! I have strong protective instincts and my last ex was incredibly irresponsible and would get blackout drunk and high on purpose and in her 30's would do things like take drinks from strangers at bars resulting in her getting sexually assaulted and beaten in an alley and missing for 4 hours last year and after that would still go out drinking and drugging with groups of people in the woods i didn't know and would intentionally shut off her phone for example! Am i perfect..heck no far frorm it, I've done some mean and terrible things in my past and havent always been the best partner either and been the asshole and been a jerk and been hurtful but i have NEVER cheated, I can be insecure and jealous at times but i feel it is BOTH our responsibilities to work on and out those issues and put them to rest in a relationship on both ends if you are too inside the rules of our relationship and dynamic and any alt/kink lifestyle, i have tried and am trying to be the best version of myself for now and the rest of my life, how i treat you depends on how i am treated if i am being rude or mean or going over the top it is because something is wrong or something you did or are doing hurt or is bothering me immensely and we need to stop and have instant communication about it and has to be resolved before anything even if it takes days or weeks!! If we are treating each other right and respecting boundaries and limits than i will do everything under the sun to make you happy, i am spontaneous and love to do things spur of the moment like go for drives and other fun activities but responsibly too. I dont just blow money for nothing. I love to dance and want someone to take Salsa lessons with, i want someone i will marry. I dont want anyone weak or cowardly that will run at the first sign our relationship has an issue, i want a fighter like me that will give everything they have to make it work and not take the easy way and leave or cheat and move on to someone else because its simpler than fixing things! DO NOT SAY YOU WANT FOREVER WITH ME AND NOT MEAN IT LIKE ALL THE REST, IF WE GET INTO RELATIONSHIP AND IT PROGRESSES AND YOU DONT SEE FOREVER I NEED TO KNOW ASAP. I like the cheesy relationships you hear about on tik tok where were together 24/7 an never get tired of being in each others space, i want clingy and affectionate and supportive. i want my freinds and family to love you and vice versa. i want to build a life with you together as a partner not on my own while you sit at home and do nothing and reap the benefits im not interersted, I want holidays spent together i want vacations together i want lives together. I wont be hidden or anyones secret. I am an old school romantic and i still have some chivalry left in me and will treat you with love and kindness and respect and hold open doors and still carry you across a puddle so your feet dont get wet. Now if your not familiar with the term micro cheating look it up. DONT LIE TO ME! I wont put up with it, if oyur messaging other ppl unless its legit a childhood freind youve known for 30 years and nothing sexual has ever happened or been brought up then ok but again if you dont know what micro cheating is look it up. If you screw up tell me before i find out PLEASE! I promise itll be way worse if you dont and could end us. Somehow in my life i always find out and I AM NOT STUPID AND VERY INTUITIVE I WILL KNOW if something is off i knew for months that my ex and best freind had lied and had fooled around. I can forgive a lot i forgave 3 years of lies and cheating and abuse (physical and emotional) and not in a dynamic sense and manipulation and being used and still tried to save my last relationship and still offered my soul and love and body and worship to that person but finally put my foot down when after forgiving all that the behaviours not only didnt change it in fact got worse! If were together no dating apps or replying to messages on fetlife without the other being around again back to trust and micro cheating, i want a partner to explore life and the lifestyle WITH not seperately and trust is all. I am not ok with any secrets if i tell you everything about me and put my trust in you i expect the same NO SECRETS nothing held back. Do not lie to me about who you are or change, be yourself and we will either work or we wont..Again ex was fake for 3 years from the moment she said hello till the moment we spoke last and i dont want that. i know saying all this is a long shot but lifes to short to waste on the wrong people esp at my age. So ill leave with this for now, but a few more things about me, I do have a Dom /switch side that is very primal, it is rare and requires the right partner to draw that out of me as i was used for it in past relationships and it is not a nice part of my personality it is a rather dark and mean sadistic part of me i dont really like to have out! When i submit i am always in femme mode, it is not a kink or a fetish i consider my femme side very powerful and confident and feel good and sexy when i am dressed despite my kinks of liking to be humiliated etc, My submission is a freaking gift and should be treated as such as it is not given to just anyone. Same with my love and respect, I have almost never reached subspace. I want that with you. My kinks go from light to some more extreme so hope your ready for that or open to discuss it. The likelhood ill find anyone with a profile like this is mediocre if not impossible at best and i understand that but hey ive been single more in my life than i ever have been in relatiosnships. I dont need people in my life so if your there that means something and i want you there and i will be hoplessly devoted and you will become a need for me eventually. So dont please dont start something with me if you dont intend it to last. If we are out at a party or events i wont be ignored either, its one thing if your in a convo that i do not know much about but then give me a task like licking your heels to do or something DO NOT just 1) ignore me and not at least introduce me 2) Leave me standing there bored please. 3) humiliate me in front of others esp if its not part of our play or dynamic by belittling me over small shit in front of a room full of people( like losing a lighter...that legit happened not funny) I am 5'11 bald fit id say about 200 pounds but thinner avg to fit i have hazel eyes. I want to find a partner to film fun Domme sub/slave content with too, if you made it this far and you think you may be the one the please feel free to message me and say hello. Have a wonderful day. There is many more layers to me to unravel if interested, have a wonderful day stay and play safe out there.

About you:

Must drive and have your own car

Must have a job and not on any form of govt assistance

Clean (both from substances and hygene must shower etc daily and have a clear std check) and sober and relatively healthy and in some shape as i like to camp and hike and explore and go for walks and love urban exploration and going to abandoned towns

Non drinker

No drugs except prescriptions and cant be a medicine cabinet in your purse full please and esp no weed as im allergic to some types and dont know which and that has potential to give me dabilitating migraine in minutes

Be willing to split or pay for things once in a while at least and spoil me too once in a while

Be able to cross provinces and countries without restrictions

Preferably no children and for heaven sakes no significant other if your messaging or planning to be with me none of this im not happy and planning to break up, i wont be the other person either.

Not a requirement but im a leg man and love tall women, i dont even care if your taller than me thatd be hot AF tbh

Wanting to play often and go to events and workshops, i like to drive and travel all over and got to events before i moved i drove across Canada 3 times for Montreal Fetish weekend before i moved back.

Be on the same continant! I have no issue driving a full day to see you Canada or US if it really it it works for us and i see us going somehwhere. I was kinda dumb and moved cross country for my ex only to have her break up with me for someone else 3 weeeks later leaving me to sleep in my car till i found a place so just saying that to show how commited i can be and the lengths im willing to go for someone i love. But that will be harder to achieve with someone new as im not a pushover and have learned not to be so easy and forgiving but if i feel someday were there then i will go to the ends of the Earth for you.

Do not give me anything if you ever intend to take it back, a gift is a gift and should remain that way forever

I do not want to hear im sorry or pity for my past nor do i want to hear empty im sorrys in our future with repeated behavior and patterns that dont change

Do not start with the id never do that or if we ever broke up i would never, we all know people will absolutely no matter what do those things plus i dont believe in starting something with the intention of thinking of it already ending

Not looking for any pay to play situation, i have dated and served both lifestyle and Pro Dommes but i want to be your bf/husband/sub/slave not your customer. I have played the online game too. Catfishes fakes and the like stay away ill know instantly by your approach

Money isnt everything to me it shouldnt be to you either, be just as happy with a walk in the park and a free cider from a street vendor as you would a 5 day all expense to Mexico

Part of my daily life includes dealing with the public, i am in entertainment and i have been for almost 30 years...MUST be able to conduct yourself with class and dignity and respect and within boundaries and limits when you are with me at events in front of fans and fellow entertainers and charity functions as well!!!! I keep my kink side as separate as possible from my professional life, while many know i am in an alt lifestyle they are not aware i sub or of my femme side and wish to keep it that way. I AM not ok and do not and will not ever consent or be ok with sharing any photos, videos or discussions of our dynamic outside of our relationship to anyone other than in a kink setting and even then only with proper discussion with me first (your gf's) family, freinds included i dont care, other than if we film content what we do and take pics and vids of is for us only PERIOD!!!! If we do film.. any recognizable scars and marks etc wil be hidden and id be wearing a mask or hood anyways. I encourage my patners also if they do want to pursue being a Pro Domme either online or irl to do so but again only within the boundaries and limits of our relationship. I have no issue setting up appts and websites etc or even filming other sessions as i have done so in the past and its a great way to make some extra fun money and play.

Must be honest like no stealing etc kind of honest and honest with me as in communication too( if your read this far and are sure this is a right fit add FOREVER as your headline title in your message. I should note despite my pics i am straight and looking for women only.

Well if i havent scared you off here it is. Take care and i leave this to the higher power and fate to see what it brings if anything. Good day.