Hey all, I'm a 36 year old, London based sub.

What am I looking for?

I'm looking for something IRL and would ideally like to find a monogamous, long-term relationship, but for now, just want to find someone to connect with and see how it develops.

I'm not looking for something solely based around kink and would like to find someone who shares vanilla interests too.

I would expect any relationship to be built on trust and mutual respect where consent and safety are always at the forefront.

And lastly, on the kinky side, I would primarily prefer a bedroom dynamic, but would be interested for it to expand beyond the bedroom as we get to know each other.

A bit about me

The basics: I'm white, 180ish cm tall and just over 70kg, so a skinny/slim build, clean shaven, and DDF.

I go crazy for: live music! I usually go to gigs once or twice month and love to have a beer whilst listening to some of my favourite music live. My top shows from the last year were Vampire Weekend and Camera Obscura.

My favourite place in London: Kew Gardens is a beautiful hideaway and one of the few places in London to see each season really develop. Nothing beats walking around in the middle of summer and smelling the pine trees.

Other vanilla interests: playing chess, going to pub quizzes, cooking French food, doing the daily cryptic in the Guardian, tending to my plants, and park picnics in summer.

As a sub: I simply love giving up control and would probably fall somewhere into the category of a rope bunny and service sub. I have plenty of experience in the role but am always keen learn more and try new kinks.

Kinks and limits

Some of the things I enjoy are:

• bondage and predicaments
• face sitting, oral, pussy worship
• discipline and strict orders
• power exchange
• being collared
• trying not to make a mess while being gagged
• the unknown of what's coming next
• teasing, begging
• spanking and other impact play
• the rush of pain after taking nipple clamps off
• anal play.

These are obviously all negotiable and require mutual consent. It's also non exhaustive so please say if you're into something I've missed.

Limits include age play, poo/pee, playing under the influence of alcohol or other drugs, leaving permanent marks (though anything temporary is fine), gore, and choking/breath play.

Who I'm looking for

I would like to find someone who lives in London and is aged around 25-40. I'm not bothered by skin colour, body shape, etc but I do admire someone who is self confident and happy with themselves and who they are.

You would ideally have some prior experience with kink and femdom and lean more into the gentle side of domination, though I really don't mind someone strict or with sadistic tendencies.

Good communication is also really important to me, so I'd like to find someone who is open and honest and willing to speak their mind.

To wrap it up

Thanks for reading my post, if you're interested do send me a message and let me know a bit about yourself, I'd love to hear from you and will respond as soon as I can.