Hello,

I am a 25-year-old man from West Germany who is looking for a dominant woman for a long-term relationship or a play partnership. While I would prefer an IRL connection I am open to online play.

About me

I am a student living in a small apartment near my university. I would describe myself as a more reserved and introverted type of person. When I get more comfortable around people I tend to open up. Generally, I am always happy to be included in social settings even when it is sometimes hard for me to participate in them. I would say that I have a positive outlook on life. Although it is sometimes challenging for me I try to always be honest when I communicate my feelings.

In my free time, I like to play video games, especially story-driven RPGs. I also like to play some random games with my friends depending on our mood. I visit the gym regularly for 2-3 times per week depending on my schedule. For a short time, I also like to watch anime and read manga. I am also interested in different types of sports.

I am 169 cm tall (5'7) with 65 kg/144 lbs and an average body shape. I wear glasses and have medium-length brown hair. Most of the time I like to wear black nail polish. I prefer to have my body hair to be completely shaven or at least shortly trimmed. I am willing to exchange pictures after we had the opportunity to get to know each other for some time.

What am I looking for in a partner?

I am looking for a domme who is 20-35 years old. I would prefer it if you spoke German since it is my native language but English would also be ok. If you are looking for online play your location does not matter as long as it is within a reasonable time difference (GMT 1). If you are interested in personal meetings every now and then I am ready to travel within a reasonable distance. This would highly depend on our distance and schedule.

I do not have a strict preference for a specific height or weight however, please do not be heavily overweight. I like tall women, but shorter or the same height as me is fine as well. For me, it is more important that our personalities and values are compatible. I expect that you will show an effort to be honest and open in your communication. Mistakes can happen on both sides but it is very important for me that we can openly talk about them. For that I need a partner I can fully trust. To build trust I will need some time to get to know you better, so please have some patience, because it takes me some time to understand other people.

Whether you have a more nurturing or a more strict domination style, I am flexible to adapt your guidance. Your level of experience is not important as long as you are willing to learn.

My kinky preferences

I have no BDSM experience so far. For over a year I have been active in my local kink community, where I visit regular munches. I also visited some workshops and a play party. I have spent a lot of time informing myself about various kinks and I am still in the process of learning.

My main motivation to participate in BDSM is the power exchange between a submissive and a domme. While there are a lot of different ways to establish a D/s relationship, I would prefer it if your kinks as the domme are the main focus. Since I have no experience it is hard for me to articulate concrete likes and dislikes because I am still experimenting with them, however here are my preferences:

My main kinks include humiliation (verbal or through actions), serving my domme (for example domestic chores or errands), orgasm control (ruined orgasm, edging, denial), and consensual discipline in case I have not behaved to your liking (play punishments). I like to worship a domme and follow her instructions. If you wish, I would like to address you with an honorific (but only please after we have discussed a dynamic, not in a first message). I also like pegging and prostate massages with a vibrator or butt plug I already have (I think you can even control them remotely). Besides that, I am interested in chastity for short and medium lengths of time, sensation play, and cumplay. I also like boots and feet.

I am open to experimenting with pain (impact play, CBT...). While I would not consider myself a masochist, I am willing to endure a medium level of pain for you, if you would like to. I am also curious about feminization (not sissification), chastity devices, breath play, and bladder desperation/omorashi. I am also open to any kind of watersports.

Under no circumstances will I be playing with needles or knives. I am also not interested in blackmail play, race play, findom, or any type of intentional scars. I do not want to include any type of food play (controlling meals) in our dynamic. I am also not interested in any type of cuckolding scenarios/roleplays and I am not open to any form of TPE arrangements. While play can sometimes be intense and my words/actions could be occasionally unpredictable, I do not like to be a brat and I wish that you would call out such a behavior should it occur.

While I have listed the most important kinks in this message I have included a more detailed overview of my kinks here: https://i.imgur.com/bAZTVWP.png (I am open to experimenting with breath play, there is a mistake in the picture). Of course, it is difficult to convey sexual preferences through a Reddit post. If you need clarification on specific topics, I will gladly discuss them with you.

Next steps

Thank you so far for reading my message. If you think we will be a good match, please contact me via DM on Reddit. Please include in your message a short description of yourself, whether you are interested in online or in-person meetings, and a little bit about your kinky preferences.

I am looking forward to getting to know you :)