Important to know about me: I'm 6'2. I enjoy traveling to experience new cultures. I play pretend farmer on my homestead though it's not as easy to do in the winter. I have three geese named Spoony, Killbot, and Clifford. I have a dad bod. Brown hair and brown eyes. I'm on ozempic and have lost 20 lbs so far, even through the holidays. I'm more than happy to swap pictures. I used to have a long beard and realized I didn't like it, so now I just have stubble. My favorite color is green (or purple).

I'd like to do the 52-book challenge next year. I can cook, clean, and I tend to do DIY housework most weekends. There isn't much I wont at least attempt myself. I hate working on cars though, but will if I have to.

The quickest way into my heart is to say, "I hear you, your feelings are valid, and you are safe with me." That's it! I am going to therapy and on a journey to improve my emotional intelligence. We can talk feelings or I can sit quietly though!

I work in the tech/video game industry.... I'll give you three guesses as to which company. I am self-sufficient, have a house/car/retirement. I am not rich, but I live a good life. I am still advancing in my career. I'd like to not work in tech someday so am working on multiple side gigs to see if I can't figure something else out.

I've been to munches in the Seattle area, at places like the CSPC and some bars/parks. The kink community is great out here!

What I'm looking for: I am interested in meeting new people and I'm open to either a LTR or just play partners. I am all about pro-Dommes but I'm not looking for one right now. I am looking for a lifestyle partner. The important thing to me is open and honest communication. I do have a house and car so can host or travel. I'd prefer to meet up somewhere publicly or chat on the phone before.

If you are looking for a LTR, I just want to say that I would like children someday. We don't need to negotiate that today or even soon.

I talked to someone online and while it was a great fit, we couldn't make the timing work. I am willing to try again online, but I want to be clear that I'd like to meet up in person sooner and I want to schedule chats in advance (if this is you and you want to try again, I'd be interested!). I am willing to travel.

I will always be respectful of your home, privacy, needs, wishes, etc... I am a human being capable of empathy. I may make mistakes, but I will own them and have no issues saying, "I'm sorry" and "I was wrong." I think femdomme is a two way street. I will tell you what I want, and I want to know what you want.

I won't ghost you. Please don't ghost me. I totally understand what it means to send a message here and then not check for months though.

If you want a picture, I'd like one in return!

Kink wise: I am very into (long term or otherwise) chastity and orgasm denial. I recently got a Prince Albert to that end. Lock it up and throw at the key (ok don't really or should you?). I'm also good with FLR/TPE but I'd prefer gentle domme or mommydomme. I'm into pegging and intimate things. Being vulnerable is a huge turn on.

I know it's not everyone's cup of tea, but you must at least be accepting of ABDL. I am all about it and while you don't need to be, I am looking to incorporate it into whatever dynamic. That means being open to diapers but we can talk about that that means. I would really, really like to explore a praise kink.

I like the idea of being told what to do but I don't need an actual Mommy. I'm an adult and keep my house clean.

I would love to come be a service sub for you and help with chores, give massages, or whatever you'd like! I'll happily hold your bags while shopping! I am willing to negotiate on a lot of things though. I don't actually think there's enough room to mention everything that I really enjoy or want to try but I'm happy to discuss particulars. If there's something you don't see but you're curious anyway, reach out!

I will happily switch as well.

Some of my hard limits: I am not interested in CBT or pain play (aside from spanking) but understand many dommes are. I am open to negotiation on this. I am not okay with actual non-consenual blackmail, non-consent in general, findom unless in a long-term relationship, drawing blood in most cases, and breath play. Hard limits are obviously non-negotiable, but I do think there are ways to incorporate something as trust and understanding grows.

If you read this, I'd love to hear from you.