About Me

Hi, I'm a 26 year old smol East Asian boy living in Virginia who is around 5'8 and 125lbs.

I currently work as a risk analyst leveraging my degree and interests in mathematics and probability. My work is flexible enough to be mostly remote if necessary. So, I am not entirely against relocating within the US, but we would need to be quite serious by that point and have a solid plan for cohabitation, housing, work, etc.

Outside of work, I enjoy reading, but I'm pretty slow and tend to read more non-fiction books. However, I do partake in the guilty pleasure of reading web novels as well. In alignment with my second university major, I also like to read philosophy books and I love to yap about it to anyone who is willing to listen. I'm a bit of a nerd about it and I especially enjoy engaging in deep discussions about various topics from a philosophical lens. If watching a 3 hour video essay together and having a thoughtful conversation over dinner about it sounds like fun to you, then you're my type of person.

I also love playing narrative-focused video games which are especially captivating when they are supported by beautiful music. I'm especially a big fan of Final Fantasy and have been to several concerts. Though I suspect at least for this series that I'm wearing rose-tinted nostalgia glasses.

Beyond those hobbies, I also enjoy dabbling in an assortment of other random interests including: experimenting with cooking, hiking, 3D art, playing tabletop/card games, piano, etc.

What I'm looking for (SFW):

I'm looking for an IRL lifelong monogamous partner who is first and foremost a supportive friend who I connect well with. That means someone who I feel comfortable spending time with whether we are telling each other about our latest passion or simply taking a long walk together. And someone who is emotionally well-adjusted. And someone who enjoys having long-form conversations with enough curiosity to want to understand almost anything or anyone in this beautifully flawed world. I would also want most of the usual cute couple stuff and would prefer to appear to most people outside our relationship as a somewhat "normal" couple (albeit probably with some FLR/"role reversal" twists). Being a bit subtly subby in public is fine, but I just don't want to be advertising our kinks/dynamic because I'm a pretty private person.

In accordance with the subreddit I'm posting in, I want to find someone who is assertive and willing to take the lead with a healthy dose of role reversal. Someone who will make me feel pursued. Someone who I can surrender control to. Hopefully, there will come a time when I can surrender to your judgment completely trusting you to have our best interests at heart. That's not to say I'm not going to yap about a lot of my opinions. I just wish to be in a more supporting and advisory role. I'm honestly not sure what other FLRs are like, but this is at least my idea of one.

Also, I'm looking for someone who would be okay with an inexperienced person.

What I'm looking for (NSFW):

I believe that many of these NSFW topics are nuanced and would be better negotiated in the relationship as trust is built. As mentioned earlier, I don't have much experience, so it is hard to actually gauge exactly what I like in practice beyond my current vague feelings. But I will still provide some indication for what I like/dislike to vaguely gesture toward a vibe.

I tend to be more inclined toward the gentle, psychological power exchange side. The feeling of being helpless turns me on. I like edging, tease-and-denial, overstimulation, light bondage, and giving oral tied up. I would like to try pegging if it is on the softer side. I also enjoy the idea of being trained to give you pleasure.

My limits are most of the more extreme stuff such as scat, watersports, blood, heavy pain/impact, or body mod. Also, I do not like public humiliation or cuckolding.

Most importantly, beyond the list, I believe play just should be fun for both of us! Otherwise, what's the point?

Next Steps

If I sound like your type of person, you can reach out to me in Reddit DMs to see if we have initial compatibility before moving elsewhere.

I also embedded a little minigame to make sure you were paying attention as a filtering mechanism. Well, and I thought it was clever :P. So, when you reach out, please draw a few connections between my Reddit username and some of the content in my bio. I just want to see some effort, but you don't really need to get it right. No spoilers in comments please.

Afterwards, please tell me a bit about yourself and why you think you might be a good fit. Thank you for reading and I look forward to hearing from you.