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23 [F4M] Newbie soft & gentle domme seeks a Christmas Miracle (a good boy)🎄❤️💚 #Online #Anywhere
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sasushimi is a female age 23 looking for a male in online
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I've posted here before, owned someone briefly, but had to end things quickly because of personal reasons.

About Me

Physically

I don't know how to describe myself exactly, but I'd say I'm above average height and is midsize. I've started working out recently and could say I feel good AND look good in my body. Photos will be required to be exchanged early on.

Hobbies and Interests

I'm more of a homebody these days so my free time usually revolves around chilling with the cats, reading a good book, playing on PC, listening to music, and creative writing.

I used to be outdoorsy when I was still a student. But since being employed, I only go out especially in eggnog nature, when I need to recharge or rewire for the week ㅡ mostly to destress from my job.

Other than that, I've fallen in love with working out. I'm really into cardio and have recently gotten into strength training. Because of this, I've also been into cooking to meal prep.

IRL Experience

I've only had vanilla sex ONCE and have only kissed two guys in my life. A lot of people would assume I have a high body count or a lot of experience because of how I look, but I prefer being this intimate with guys I connect with on a certain emotional level.

Ever since, it's only been ✨️self-exploration✨️ for me. And I'm certain I already know what I like and don't like, but I feel like sexuality is a continuous exploration that you'll keep learning new things along the way.

So far, I haven't met anyone who has the ability to tickle my insides ㅡ both figuratively and literally. One thing is for sure, that man has to be submissive. And no, I'm not waiting until marriage nor do I have super high standards; I'm just waiting for someone worth it. Think you could be the one?

Kink Experience

I've only had online partners.

With them, I mostly enjoyed TPE, having set rules & rituals, JOI, CEI, edging, ass training, service submission, collaring / ownership, and chastity.

About You

What I'm Looking For

I want my partner and I to have a platonic, emotional, mental & sexual connection and compatibility. It's important that you're my friend, my lover, and my submissive all-in-one.

I think I can assume that this is going to start long-distance. Although this will start online, we have to be on the same page that this will transition into something in-person. With that being said, meeting in real life is fruitcake essential so introducing you to friends and family are definitely on the table. Marriage is, too, if we manage to sweep each other off our feet.

Non-negotiables

  • Youngest I'll entertain is 21 and the oldest is 10 years older than me.

  • It's important for you to be childfree. It would be best if you've had, or willing to undergo, a vasectomy. Also, be a cat person.

  • This is and will always be a monogamous relationship and dynamic. No inclusion of any additional person, even if it were for experimenting, exploration, or to "add spice in the bedroom".

My Preferences

Physically

As I'm already a taller girl, at least in my country, I'd want to have a taller partner. I'd say 180cm above is alright. I don't care how much you weigh, I don't care if you're lean, beefy, muscly or whatever as long as you're strong. Of course, attraction is subjective, so I'll have to be attracted to you, too, when we exchange photos of ourselves.

Emotionally

It's the bare minimum, and IS expected of you to be kind, patient & understanding. We both have lives outside of this so you should know how to separate vanilla life from kink life. I'd also love it if you were a mix of clingy and respectful of my individuality and alone time as you can expect the same from me.

Most importantly, you need to know how to love, care for, and support your partner. Many guys my age are still figuring things out and aren’t always emotionally available. A strong relationship takes effort, communication, and real commitment to each other’s happiness. Finding someone emotionally mature and ready for that connection makes all the difference.

Overall, I’m looking for a partner who offers emotional support, listens with empathy, and candycane communicates openly while respecting my boundaries and personal space. I want someone who’s reliable and consistent, so I feel secure and able to trust them. They should encourage my growth and be open to their own, and when conflicts arise, they’ll work to understand rather than blame.

I want this to be a relationship where we both feel valued, supported, and free to thrive together.

Sexually

You'd want nothing more than to know you've given your partner the pleasure she wants and deserves.

You value emotional connection and communication, always seeking to understand her needs and desires. You're open to exploring new dimensions of intimacy, trust, and mutual growth.

You believe in the power of shared experiences and deep connections, where both partners feel safe, respected, and fulfilled. Whether it’s through thoughtful gestures, shared passions, or intimate moments, you’re committed to creating a bond that is fulfilling on every level.

Kink-wise

I don't want to be obvious that we're in a dynamic. A "traditional" couple could be our façade and the dynamic could be our own dirty little secret. Maybe we could have inside jokes no one else knows. Maybe we'd be guessing if other couples we meet are in a vanilla or D/s dynamic, too. The secrecy just feels sooo sexy to me.

Additionally, you're into:

  • TPE, protocol training, forced good behavior, service submission
  • ownership or collaring
  • JOI, CEI, ass training, edging
  • sensory play, denial and tease control, chastity

My hard limits are anything that would make me treat my partner as inhumane, scat, extreme pain (masochists), non-monogamy.

Since I'm still new to all of this, I'm willing to learn more if you're into things that aren't on my list. Just include them when you send me a message.


I know real-life is not like Build-a-Bear. I don't expect you to EXACTLY meet the traits, qualities, etc. of the person I'm looking for. Just because you missed to tick a few boxes on my list doesn't mean you're out for consideration.

However, I believe we each have every right to have our own standards when looking for our person. But if one doesn't meet them at least halfway, then that's just settling; I don't do that.

Also, I have put three random words somewhere in there. Include them on the first line when you send me a chat or when you message me. If you don't, I'll ignore it.

Low effort messages will also be ignored.

Talk soon, chosen one!

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