Let me start by saying I'm down to earth and real. I have my shit together. I have a good career that I work extremely hard in. I'm not here looking for a kink dispenser, but instead a relationship that has a mixture of kink and vanilla. I want someone who is my best friend, but can also be the leader of the relationship. I'd love to hear about your day, how you are doing, and what's on your mind. I'm an excellent listener and I don't judge. I want to learn what makes you tick and what brings you the joys in life. Can you tell the theme yet? I want this to be about you!

I'm 40 and from New York. I'm a big introvert. I have a mathematical brain, where I like rules and structure. I can be a big nerd. I love to learn and find new experiences. I'd love to meet someone who likes to teach! I enjoy history, as I listen to a lot of podcasts and read if I have the opportunity. I'm not very artistic, however, I do have a passion for photography. I find it a lot of fun to go on an adventure and find somewhere that looks gorgeous. I'm a sports fan - I grew up playing both soccer and hockey and follow both sports.

I have blue eyes, a trimmed beard, and a great smile. I enjoy spending time outdoors and working out. I definitely don't have a six pack - like so many of the f4m ads seem to look for, but I am definitely hwp.

I got into this by reading. I'm an avid reader of smut. Once I discovered D/s and got into the darker and kinker stories I knew it was for me. Personality wise, I'm a people pleaser. I'd rather do what you want and find a way to put a smile on your face. To me it's important to learn about your kinks and desires. I always feel awkward when right off the bat someone asks me to list kinks. To me the connection we build is the most important part.

As I just said, the connection is the most important part. That's the reason why I listed where I am as well as online. I want to be open to meeting anyone that I might have that chemistry with. Thank you for taking the time to read, and I look forward to hearing from you!