Hey there :)

I'm a 31 year old guy in Long Beach. I'm a switch but have never been a sub in person and that's something I'd like to explore. I have 3 weeks off over the holidays so I'm looking for something casual in that time to learn and experiment with a domme and see where things go. I should note: I'm only looking for something in person, not online.

I'm open to things continuing past the 3 weeks or moving from a more casual thing to a more serious thing. At least to start I'd like to keep it casual more like a session/FWB type thing. I'm happy to chat more about that so we're both on the same page with our expectations and hopes.

In terms of the dymanic I'm looking for, it leans much more toward us being equal partners exploring together instead of something more like a one-directional power exchange. I think I'm much more receptive to a gentle Mommy-domme style of domination (note: I don't personally like or dislike the title of "Mommy," but that type of caring domination is what I'm interested in, so if you identify as one or not that's fine by me!), something more guiding and encouraging and not something that involves cruelty or negativity. I'm good enough feeling embarassed/humiliated on my own so it'd be really great to have someone who recognizes that but then can encourage me and guide me to keep going instead of talking down to me, if that makes sense.

My partner's pleasure is really important to me, so I know I've talked about myself a lot so far, but that's just to give you perspective of where I'm coming from. I really want our interactions to be something you enjoy and look forward to, and I want to make sure that the things I do bring you pleasure and enjoyment. Pleasing my partner is a huge motivator for me!

Even for something casual, I'm very monogamous, I only consider being with one person and would expect the same from my partner. I want to have a dynamic that builds and grows so I'd also like this to be a repeating thing not just a one night stand or hookup

I don't want to list a bunch of kinks because that's boring, I think a lot of the fun will come from exploring and trying new things and seeing if I can push myself to do things for you (or be okay with you doing things to me) that I wouldn't have done on my own. I will say that a hard limit is most likely butt stuff. I know a lot of dommes are interested in pegging but I'm pretty sure that's not for me. Also happy to chat about this so you know where I'm coming from.

A bit about me outside of kink: I'm white, 6'3"ish, brown hair, relatively HWP. For work I'm a Software Engineer at a tech startup (but don't worry I'm not a tech bro lol). Outside of work I like cooking, reading (Sci-fi and fantasy mostly), video games, science-y youtube, etc. I have two nerdy tattoos too!

I don't really have any hard limits on age or experience, so feel free to reach out! I'm open to exchanging some SFW pictures just to make sure we pass the physical vibe check before moving on to more!