Hello! My name is Jay. SFW Photo of me

What I'm looking for

I'm looking for a long term relationship/dynamic that has a core of friendship and mutual trust. Something where we enjoy each other's company just as much outside of kink if not more. I'm looking for someone interested in or at least indifferent about ENM (I'm married to a 28F, we've shared a dynamic with a domme before and she is interested in doing this again, if that's something you would be in to).

About me

I work evenings/nights (until midnight-ish) M-F and that schedule isn't for everybody.

Vanilla hobbies include:

• Cooking/food science

• Home automation/programming/AI stuff

• Building computers/electronics

• Casual / multiplayer video games (currently playing handheld pokemon games pokemon go outside, I love playing co-op or multiplayer games on voice chat)

• Physical activity of any kind (long hikes/walks, running/5ks, going to the gym, playing pretty much any sport, etc)

• Books (reading Brandon Sanderson's cosmere novels right now)

• TV/Movies (rewatching Criminal Minds & Arcane right now, but I'll happily watch pretty much anything except reality TV)

• Anything creative. I'm not very good at anything artistic, but I like doing it nonetheless.

Who I'm looking for

• Your body type isn't terribly important to me, but I'd like you to be able to keep up with me physically. I can be attracted to most anybody feminine passing (transfemme ladies welcome).

• I need someone who is comfortable with their body, as sending and receiving pictures is very big for me.

• People local to Colorado > > > as I've found that online only relationships tend to not be the best match for people searching for long term, though I have had some great successes with online only in the past.

Somebody who shares interests with me and wants to engage in non-kink related activities often as well as someone who likes having (and knows how to) engaging conversations often - we're both adults with busy lives, I get that talking on a daily basis won't always happen.

I would love to play through a game, read a book, watch a series, join a sports team, attend a class, or anything else with you.

I'm looking for someone with a dominant side, even if you have no experience. I make a lot of decisions and am in charge of people at work and have found that I love giving up control in my personal life. I'm happy to switch as well, and have more experience in a dominant position anyways.

NSFW stuff

Power exchange is the biggest part of submission for me. Tasks with rewards/punishments are a necessary part of a dynamic for me. As I mentioned, I'm a switch and can discuss my kinks in a dominant role separately if desired.

• Power exchange things I've done in the past and found that I like include wardrobe control, exercise control, bladder control, and diet retrictions (full control doesn't work well for me)

• Kinks I enjoy - light humiliation/degradation, body worship, anal training (little experience), light impact play/pain, spitting, JOI/edging, subtle public play, begging, honorifics/pet names

• Kinks I'm (more than) willing to engage in if you like them - bondage/shibari, CEI, light feminization, light watersports, roleplay, freeuse

• Hard limits - anything findom related or you demanding money/compensation in any way, scat, blood, long term/permanant marks, airway restriction (choking without that is fine), roleplay about illegal things (or actual illegal things)

Please be able to keep up a conversation without making me do all the work to keep it going. I beg.

Please be willing to verify yourself early on, I'd estimate about 75% of replies I get are scammers using fake photos who end up trying to blackmail me or demand a 'tribute.'