Hi, I'm Andi, a 28 y/o chemistry PhD student from southern Germany. I'm fluent in German and English and would describe myself as a nerdy, submissive introvert. My friends have described me as trustworthy, decent, a comfort person, a pleaser, boyfriend material (I thought, I misheard at first xD), but also as too worried, over-apologetic, stressed and forgetful (working on it), which probably is more accurate and objective, than I could manage myself.

My hobbies include video games, 3D printing, tabletop RPGs. I'm also working on some smaller projects, which all require either brains, skill with my hands, or both and often are an excuse to stay indoors most of the time. These commonly include expanding on or learning new skills, that overlap with kink through service. E.g. recently I'm getting better at cooking, and doing research on a journalling method I like.

I'm generally interested in things related to elegant problem solving like mathematics, linguistics, data analysis, locksport, and materials sciences. With that comes an interest in authors like Terry Pratchett, which I read when I have the peace of mind for it. Of course, this also brings an interest in sci-fi and fantasy movies and series and the same genres for books with the addition of non-fiction.

I enjoy spending time together (no matter how abstract "together" gets), and providing acts of service. Giving and receiving gifts is a very complicated topic to me, requires lots of thought and can't easily be described in under 200 words.

My sexuality is best compared to a wave-function describing a deuterium atom: approximations kind of work, but it's weird, doesn't quite fit, and words are definitely not enough to describe it. For simplicity, I'm somewhere between hetero-, bi- and pansexual. That's good enough for me to know what I want.

My kinks are mostly comprised of service and bondage. Being helpful and handy to have around, or being restrained and used for pleasure just both make me feel desired. Naturally this is a result of wanting to give up control and please others. I'm also into denial, receiving a bit of pain, CNC, pegging, some garment fetishes and open to trying many more things. Kink is also not primarily about sex for me, but the two mix well 😄

Hard limits include illegal things, findom in the broadest sense, cuckolding, politics as part of roleplay and hollow needles. I draw the bodily-fluids-line after pee, but before blood.

About my appearance: I'm 1.73m "tall", shaven bald, bearded and have hazel eyes. I'm quite masculine and fall on the slimmer side of the category dad bod (I think? This is my first and hopefully only contact with this terminology).

Who I'm looking for:

I'm looking for a nerdy, intelligent, gentle yet assertive domme, or dom-leaning switch, between 24 and 35 years old, to be more than friends, funny, nerdy, vulnerable and also weird with. Not neatly fitting into categories is of course fine too, even preferred 😉

Outward appearance doesn't matter a great deal to me as long as you're healthy. Having an attractive personality, a sharp mind, weird hobbies, good communication skills, or oddly specific memes is way more attractive to me than any bodily feature could ever be.

My idea of getting to know each other, is to move rather slow, be friends first, do stuff together and move past being play partners towards a stable romantic relationship with a comedically easy to see through vanilla guise with femdom and D/s underneath. If you have different plans, let me know, I'm kind of into being told how things will go, as one might guess. ^^ Anyways, the relationship should be built on trust, honesty, mutual support, appreciation, clear communication above any dynamic and hopefully long-lasting love.

Speaking of dynamic: I’d prefer starting the kinky part in the bedroom, or non-sexual outside before mixing the two in the form of rituals, affirmations, and D/s elements, when we both feel ready for it and are interested in that.

I prefer monogamy, but this is up to negotiation (as is almost anything else).

I've written a lot now and think you shouldn't take my word for it, but form your own opinion. If you contact me, please write more than one line of text, mention your age, where you are in life, approximate location (or at least time zone), hobbies and the language we should continue in. Please also talk about your personality, kinks and maybe even what's on your mind. I'm also sure I forgot something, so please ask if things that matter to you are missing.

If you think "this one thing bothers me", or "close call, I might not be who he's looking for", give it a shot anyways and be clear about what bothered you. In the worst case you will get a polite "no". The only things I'm adamant about are hard limits, clear communication, and things that are out of our power to change.

As for communication: I'd prefer to starting off on reddit, take it to Discord, Telegram or Threema relatively quickly. I have neither Kik nor Snapchat and would rather not use either. Not to using honorifics in the first few messages and instead talk as equals at least until things loosen up is also appreciated (Yes, I'm probably overthinking this a lot 😅. I also promise I’m funny as soon as I don’t do that anymore.)