Hi there. I am a masculine and muscular chastity sub. I am seeking a mostly normal relationship with a mostly normal woman. I am a very normal guy, with very abnormal interests. I seek a like minded woman. I call myself submissive because I have no interest in dominating a woman or being in charge in the relationship. I call myself submissive because I love chastity. But I do not look or act like a typical submissive. My ideal relationship is committed, and long term. Real time, face to face, in person relationship. Very monogamous. With a strong, confident and intelligent woman. Kink when the mood strikes, vanilla filling in all the gaps between kink. A collaboration, while deferring final say to my partner in vanilla life. But 100% submissive in kink. And chastity woven into the relationship 24/7. You will always have the only say on when the cage comes off, IF the cage comes off. And how long in-between unlocking. I would love to meet someone who absolutely relishes that control. Who is perfectly comfortable being a cruel keyholder when the mood strikes. Just as she is fun loving or teasing.

I have many vanilla interests, movies, museums, etc. Physical activities, biking, hiking, tennis, racquetball, gym, etc. Am very open and easy going. I lift weights 3 times a week, eat healthy most of the time, zero drugs, drink very rarely. Not fanatical, but reasonable.

Kink interests are just as varied. But I do have that special interest in chastity. I seek someone who enjoys having that control as much as I enjoy giving it up. Chastity is only fun for me if it is fun for you. I have several stainless steel devices, and am secured with a pa piercing. When you hold the key, you have total control. I seek someone who appreciates my level of commitment. Takes advantage of it even. But most importantly, has fun with it. I am a moderate masochist, not extreme. I enjoy variety. Strict play, sensual play, teasing play. Light play, and at times have my limits tested. Bondage, impact play, cbt, etc. Variety. I love being denied orgasms while forced to give them. Don't ask me why, I just do. I love the dichotomy of being in discomfort while my partner demands pleasure for herself. Don't ask me why, I just do. I seek someone who enjoys that control. I don't want someone who accepts that control. I want someone who finds that control rewarding. I am entirely comfortable with my desires. I don't require aftercare. I'm not using kink as an outlet for emotional problems. Or that I need to be punished because that is all I deserve. I don't care for humiliation, or degradation. I prefer play to be uplifting. Kink is not my therapy. I just truly enjoy a strong, confident woman. Some like to cook, some like to eat. Put those two together and you have a mutually beneficial situation. I like the bottom, and I seek someone who likes the top. Mutually beneficial.

I am very functional and very sexual. I do not use chastity to mask any physical issues. I love the control, and a woman who loves that control. I am well versed in short term and long term denial. I am prepared for whatever you decide or desire. For me, denial is not denial. It is extended anticipation, and extended arousal. I know some do not handle those well. I do. It is something I love. If you are sexually selfish,  without any guilt, we should talk. More so if you have fun with it. Fun is the recurring theme. As is mutually beneficial.

I am intelligent, creative and have a great sense of humor and a quick wit. Am successful and have everything but someone to share life with. I'm not looking for a financial arrangement. I'm looking for a relationship.

I'm not a slave, not a sissy, not a cuckold, not worthless, and not a loser. I am not desperate, I'm not willing to compromise and have no interest in someone who would compromise for me. I am not interested in any kind of arrangement, only a real relationship.

If our interests don't align, I will respect your choice, as I would hope you would respect mine. I will never pursue anyone that is not a potential partner. So feel free to engage without risk or pressure.

I am a quality person, my wish is to improve someone's life, not complicate it. I am not needy. Don't require constant attention. Don't require micro management. I do my best to be more fun than trouble.

I have a house in Palm Springs and a house in Big Bear Lake. I split my time between them based on the weather. So I don't have to deal with extreme heat or extreme snow. Best of both worlds.

Until there is some commitment or understanding, I will speak to you not as a sub. Just a regular guy. Don't hesitate to ask if you have any questions or need clarification.