Okay, here goes.

It's tempting to Goldilocks my way through this. Tell you I'm into this or that and hope you're into the same or similar, and we can both sit down to a bowl of porridge that's just right. But my feelings about this are only just starting to unravel.

The simplest way I can put it now is I'm curious about gentle femdom, a female led relationship, role reversal, but it's not a carefully crafted fantasy I need to fulfill. (In other words, I haven't been watching porn and thinking, I need to do that.) It's more like an idea that's started to spark in cascades in my mind.

If there's a simple question to these confused musings it's this: what if I am happiest in a female led relationship? What if it just makes more sense?

Beyond basic questions like these, I can only explore. Try, fail, and try again.

So specific fetishes and needs are not driving me in this moment. I'm simply happy to explore, follow your lead, ask questions, and discover myself.

It's tempting to stop here and see what types of replies I get from just this, but details matter.

I'm single and monogamous. I'm looking for the same in a relationship, but I'm also open to friendship or mentorship. Either way honesty and openness are important. Communication is attractive to me. I want to be able to voice or listen to concerns and talk through problems.

I don't do drugs or smoke, but I also don't judge experimenting and responsible usage. I voted early, and it wasn't for a weird man. I'm progressive politically, believe in the benefits of social programs, fighting racism, and supporting female reproductive, indigenous, and LGBTQIA rights.

I'm about 5'10, 155lbs, Hispanic, average looking, and I'll send you a current picture as soon as you ask. I don't have a type, but connecting with someone for me also starts with her face, the eyes, the smile, and more, so it's important that we see each other's eyes as soon as possible. The rest, such as age, height, body type, race, doesn't matter to me. That said, self-confidence, self-awareness, and empathy are also very attractive to me. Knowing that you've done the work on yourself before you've come here melts my heart.

I'm mainly hoping to meet someone local, but I'm open to chatting with someone anywhere online if you're looking for a long term relationship, or for friendship and mentorship.

Happy Halloween