Hiii.. so I'm look like a daddy dom(been told that a few times) but I am actually the opposite. I'm way to shy and not aggressive at all. I don't know to find someone that want to dom me. It's so scary to try. I'm just to nervous to reach out to anyone. Please someone help me I don't even know where to begin.

some context I've been with my wife for 11yrs. I love her very much. We've been through quite a bit. Our sex life wasn't very good for along that time( i had really bad porn addiction and i was in denial, about being a sub). Anyway... for the past nine months, i've been on the self improvement journey. I've lost a lot of weight, i'm way more active, and i'm getting rid of unhealthy habits. A couple months ago, i decided to tackle my porn addiction. It's been one of the hardest things i've had to do. Finally come to terms with why i became addicted in the first place. I broke down and told my wife everything. I've been an emotional roller coaster ever since. Look at least he's been very supportive and it brought us closer. I hid all my kinks from her in the past. I was ashamed. But now.... i tell her everything. Fast forward to now...

We talked a lot about what we both want. We both took BDSM test... unfortunately we're not that compatible. But she wants to see me happy. She trys to be my domme but it doesn't come natural to her. I really need the emotional support and that's were she struggles the most. One thing we both scored high on, was non-monogamous. It was shocking to both of us. But we both wanted it, so we decided to play it out. She says she wants to find someone to dom me which is very exciting, but she doesn't really know how to find someone for me(she wants to watch 🫣) she is also wanting me to put myself out there but it's so hard..

Any help or guidance is greatly appreciated....